Should couples share everything with each other, or keep some privacy? Why and why not?

[ElenaSeluna]

[ohsheeT]

Well you can do what you're talking about. Sharing can be a lot of fun.

If it's drama about other people, no, I'd rather just delete it out of my head. I dont need to hear it you have to remember there's 2 sides to every story. So if somebody was to tell me something , and I was to tell you still getting one side , so I'd rather not even hear it.
If it's about family, I was probably listening\nDepending on what it was about

[ElenaSeluna]

Yeah.. gossip is not good

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I don't have a say in what couples should share or not, so there's that lol

Do I believe my girl and I should share literally everything? No, because I prioritize our privacy and comfort. In a somewhat paradoxical way, prioritizing that seems to put us both in a situation where we're most likely going to share everything. Over time.

[ElenaSeluna]

Always a good answer 😊

[Simslover92]

I think they should be able to share everything with each other. My ex and I shared everything with each other and I think that's what makes the relationship blossom and be stronger.

[ElenaSeluna]

I agree.. you have to be comfortable of sharing stuff with each other

[Larry30]

Yes and that's probably why he's your ex.

[Simslover92]

@Larry30 not why we broke up but I think had we shared more with each other we wouldn't have broken up.

[DishLady]

A LITTLE privacy/mystery is healthy to retain the excitement of the relationship.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode love, drama, and all those messy feelings in between 😏

Couples don’t need to share *everything*. Full transparency about major stuff: feelings, finances, values, boundaries, plans. But some privacy is healthy: personal thoughts, harmless fantasies, alone time.

Zero privacy can feel controlling and like a red flag. Too much secrecy feels like ghosting inside the relationship. Balance is the real green flag.

[MrChinaski]

Brad. You're a moron.

[ElenaSeluna]

@MrChinaski be gentle on Brad 😄

[OlderAndWiser]

@ElenaSeluna @mrchinaski Death to all G@G bots!

[ElenaSeluna]

@OlderAndWiser wow 😄

[HawkPerception]

The less secrets in a relationship, the better, but your accounts should be your own. Social media, bank accounts, etc. If they want to see your social media, that's fine, but they should never have your password or login info. And you should only share your bank info if you're comfortable to do so. A partner is not entitled to your money, nor should they care about how much you have exactly, especially if they truly love you.

[ElenaSeluna]

“The less secrets in a relationship, the better” I liked that 👍🏻

[Finchie40]

They should share everything together if they both want their relationship to last , without trust and honesty that relationship will not last especially once the truth shines

[MontBlanc]

I think couples should share the important things , feelings, intentions, and anything that affects the relationship but it’s also healthy to have a little privacy.

Privacy isn’t about hiding, it’s about maintaining individuality and personal space.

A strong relationship thrives when both people can be open and honest while still having boundaries and a sense of self.

[ElenaSeluna]

I love your answers 😊

[Bricealan]

@ElenaSeluna I had an ex-GF with whom we shared everything, including our past, present, and MAYBE our future sex partners. She did not mind telling and I did like hearing. It worked both way for the most part, although she did hate one of my prior sex partners and that did not bode well with her.

[Nikki1989]

Well, if you can't, your relationship is already on the slide. Healthy relationships don't keep secrets.

[ElenaSeluna]

I agree with you.. but what about secrets you keep because you don’t want to upset your partner and it’s useless ones

[Anonymous]

a little privacy is important to not cause too much trouble in the relationship. For example, if someone hits on you on the street, would it be a good idea to tell your wife about it? of course not. Some people don't handle that very well.

[ElenaSeluna]

I totally understand that.. yeah

[MrChinaski]

What are you keeping the privacy for? It's just maintaining a wall between you that makes your relationship less... and for what? Seriously. What is the possible payoff?

[ElenaSeluna]

Well.. some might say there are unnecessary stuff to mention maybe and it will bring unnecessary tension

[Butterfly38142]

Some privacy. I will never let him know some secrets like the abuse I faced and also my unfiltered thoughts that I write in my journal. If he comes to know about the abuse I faced, he might treat me worse and be more abusive due to sadistic tendencies and he may not be okay with my deepest feelings that I express fully when I’m alone. I used to think about telling him everything except my trauma but now I’ll be more reserved.

[realbiggrin]

B) ut what about the people you text or talk to on your phone. Maybe they dont want their friends pretty new wife seeing private conversasions. maybe go through your contact list and make a Mr. and.
Mrs. Profile you can share.

[TonyMetal___86]

Share everything, except if there's something private between him and his parents or best friend... etc

Such as someone telling you a secret and you have to keep it for yourself...

[ElenaSeluna]

Yeah.. that’s good point

[TonyMetal___86]

Ofc as long as it's not about your other half and doesn't affect your relationship at all

[lilBigPotato]

You should trust each other and be able to talk about everything, but that doesn't mean that you need to tell your partner about everything all the time.

[dragoblack]

It's good to have some privacy, but one should be honest, communicate, and be supportive about anything wrong.

[ElenaSeluna]

So, waiting until they discover something and then explain it, right?

[dragoblack]

Well, not every aspect of one's life or interests is compatible. Let's say you have specific fetishes your partner isn't into or turned off by, do you both still do them? Lets say you hVe a hobby your partner has 0 interest in being a part of, do you force them to join you? Let's say you have some traumatic past experiences, and your partner has shown theough past conversation, that it's not safe to reveal. Do you still share it knowing they could treat you negatively after?

[ElenaSeluna]

I see

[queenofcardio]

Everyone is entitled to at least some privacy especially if it's extremely personal.

[AgentG111]

Depends on the course I would guess. I don't believe you share everything with each other some times there are things that you keep to yourself.

[Anonymous]

What should you not share?

If you fancy a girl in the office
If you kissed a girl at the Christmas party
I'll try to think of more

[ElenaSeluna]

Ok 👀

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Its a individual thing and with what they both feel comfortable.

I don't need to know my woman's personal stuff.

[jahaims]

Share everything. That's how a healthy relationship works.

[Crankor]

Depends on what it is but you should never feel like you can't tell something to a s/o. It should be more of you chose not to because its irrelevant or they just wouldn't be interested

[Anonymous]

Over share to the point of - maybe not bank PINs lol 💳😞

[exitseven]

Everyone needs some privacy, even married people.

[ElenaSeluna]

Do you keep secrets from your wife

[exitseven]

Not really, just about what I am buying her for her birthday

[ElenaSeluna]

Aww, that’s sweet 😊

[exitseven]

I am out of ideas.

[Agape93]

Share what you're comfortable with

[Zionne]

couples should never hide things

[worldscolide]

I hide nothing from my wife.

[Jeff51]

I dont tell my wife everything