Does my friend still care about me, and can I fix our fallout?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, a girl and I became close day one for Some. We spent time together outside of a classroom setting. We went two hours away. She shouldn’t have told me she loves spending time with me. I feel comfortable. We start getting close not sexually it’s fairy guarding things happen. We both flushed out at each other. I gave her two days of space and reached out friendly last two months. She’s only opened my messages quicker and quicker, but hasn’t replied. does she still care? Do I still have a chance again? She never blocked me on social media or on phone I recently deactivated my Instagram and she stopped posting for a while on both her accounts. Is there something I’m missing and is there any advice anyone can give me? I care about our friendship, I feel she still does too or else she would’ve blocked me. I just wanna make things right it’s been over two months since they’re falling

[SueShe]

"I care about our friendship"...

These are your own words and they basically answer your question.

If you care about friendship, then you don't take it any further because you know as well as I do, any intimacy will kill that friendship. Those are 2 things that are not compatible

What is more important to you? Getting into her pants or remaining friends with her? It is your choice but I would not hesitate if your friendship means so much to you.

Take a step back and don't attempt anything more than just being friends. That would be the beginning of the end of that friendship. Is that what you want?

[Asker]

I have only wanted the friendship we became emotional attached day one and she’s very guarded but she started opening up to me because she said she loves spending time with me and felt comfortable. She also told me that her next boyfriend she’d wanted to be with a guy she trust and can call a friend but she would hope that if the relationship didn’t work that she could still stay friends with him she became very affectionate and touchy with me, but I’ve told her I care too much about the friendship, I’ve never had any ill intention towards her nor did I ever want her to be a one night stand, nor did I become friends with her to get in her pants if anything I wanted to win her heart and always cherish it. My father raised the gentleman a man not a boy I don’t play those messing around games or playing with a female’s heart. I’m 11 years older than her. I’ve been around and I became an adult at a very young age believe me I’m very capable of manipulating a person that’s not me and it’s not someone I’ve ever wanted to be with her. I’ve always been kind, affectionate supportive, loving and very calm and gentle with her and a true gentleman and always put her feelings first before mine it was always considerate of how she felt and never put anything emotional or heavy on her because it would always break my heart to see her sad when she would confided in me, and I was just always there to cheer her up. She would say she loved my smile and laugh and that it was contagious and that she always enjoyed spending time with me that she appreciated it. I was glad she got to have those moments with me.

[Nikki1989]

Likely, yes. If she didn't care at all, you would be blocked or restricted. Silence is rarely about "nothing"; it's usually about avoidance.

[Asker]

You mind if I ask you a question about it could you message me directly if it isn’t too much trouble?

[Asker]

She’s very guarded and we only knew each other for three months first day we met. We became very close. We would spend time outside of school is where we met and we drove 2 hours north the first time we hung out, she even told me the 2nd time we hung out she loves spending time with me and feel comfortable. It took her courage to say that. We had a falling out she said things I said things dismissed her I apologized we gave her 12 days of space texted her every week or more she’d only open my messages sooner. Went 19 days of no contact she opens messages sooner again hasn’t block me. I deactivated my ig and through another ig she doesn’t know I have she stopped posting all together for over a week. I messaged her last night she started posting again but only opened my message it’s been two months we got emotional close and I cherish the friendship she was very hot and cold and showed signs of feelings which I told her during the falling out I did too because she called me when I asked her to call me one day when she got the chance and she was worried I was in the hospital and she said she’d kick my ass if I died lol then I said no I’ve been meaning to tell you something for a while but haven’t found the words or time to tell you she started screaming with joy and demand I tell her am old school so I said in person she agreed gave me her schedule right away. Things happened in her life so I didn’t tell her when we met up. Again she disrespected me I didn’t appreciate it then that’s when the falling out happens but she keeps opening my messages but I plan to message her next week with an ultimatum in a gentlemen like respectful way because that’s how I am I’ve always been there for her affection kind considerate and never pressuring but my heart is carrying a lot so ya if you don’t mind messaging me personally that be great

[Avicenna]

two months? Have you tried talking to her?

[Asker]

Yeah, in the last two months, I’ve sent six messages. She only opens them faster and faster. Each time she hasn’t blocked me from social media or my text. I activated my Instagram. I have another one. She’s not aware of that. I don’t add anyone on when I deactivate the one she knows of. She went silent on her IG she would always mirror me with everything in person on Instagram you name it we were very emotionally connected so as of this day, she just reads my messages and opens them quick

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy feelings and help you stop overthinking and start understanding ❤️

She cares at least a little, or she’d have blocked you, but her silence is still a loud message. Opening but not replying = emotional distance, confusion, or still hurt.

You apologized and gave space. Now stop chasing. One final short message like “I value you, I’m here if you ever want to talk” and then full no-contact.

If she wants to fix it, she’ll come to you. If not, don’t lovebomb yourself into waiting forever. Heal, grow, and be the kind of person she might regret losing 😉