What makes you stop pursuing a person you like a lot?

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For me, it’s when they’re emotionally into someone else.. even if they’re also into me

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They give me a sign.

Like the last woman I took a liking to was fresh out of a divorce. She showed interest. But only when she didn't have any other suitors. After a while I felt like I was an option to her rather than a choice she was making. So I walked away. Eventually, when her other options dropped her, she came back to me, and then I told her to kick rocks. I sensed that she needed someone to build her up after her divorce. But her low self esteem is no more my responsibility then mine was hers. I would've chose her, but she had to choose me. And she failed to do that.

In hindsight it was a good thing. I'm a Christian and she was raised Christian. But since all of this she's converted to some crazy new age religion. So it wouldn't have worked out anyways.

Master_Debator · Accepted Answer

I'm going to assume the chick is sexually beneficial.

But if I don't find her beneficial in other categories I'll place her in the "pass" category because all women go through my 'smash or pass' filter.

I'm anti-fraternization when it comes the the work place or if it's somehow connected to friends and family. This is my best example of a "pass" situation even though I view her as sexually beneficial.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I may like a person but never enough to want to pursue that person. I have never pursued a person in my life and it is not likely to ever happen. Unfortunately, the other way round is much more common, which upsets me to no avail because I am not interested in a relationship.

If I were in a relationship or was interested in a person, then the only things that would make me stop seeing that person is emotional cheating, physical cheating, addictions, perversions and inappropriate fantasies, a criminal activity or incompatibilities on an intellectual level, weak character and personality.

Those would be the only things that would probably lead me to separate from that person.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Yeah, that ought to do it. Or just if their behavior in general isn’t acceptable; if they take it for granted that you like them (and will allow them some leeway and extra forgiveness) they abuse the kindness and act discourteously.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

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I stop pursuing when I see: clear emotional attachment to someone else, constant mixed signals, disrespect, or repeated ghosting patterns. If I feel like I’m in an emotional love triangle, I’m out. I want mutual energy, not competing with someone living rent‑free in their head.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t pursue people, but when I am interested in someone, I can be a bit jealous when in love and when I feel jealous I withdraw and get cold… Still working on it.

But my own insecurities make me… I guess.

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes I agree when I commit I commit and I would want the same way and if you can't have that then nothing's going to work right so yeah I agree with you

Finchie40 · Answer

If they aren’t giving the same effort that I am giving , I will stop pursuing and just accept The fact that they aren’t into me like I am to them

bobalife · Answer

Same, if I can tell they’re really into someone else or sexually flirty with them. Other things are they’re not really making much time, attention, prioritize, or making it known they’re interested in me and/or build a future… how long can I wait for someone who doesn’t make it known or reciprocate? You move on to someone else who’s willingly to provide it.

MissSunshine2 · Answer

If they end up harassing or stalking me or they get me in trouble for something I never did, because two of them were upset that I wouldn't date them or sleep with them.

BadApple69 · Answer

Normally their husband….. JOKING!!! Calm down girls lol If she shows no interest in me I’ll stop pursuing. That’s about it.

jazzy34 · Answer

Give up, honey. If he likes someone else, it's a lost cause. Believe me. I've been where you are and the pursuit is NOT worth it.

Theunfadeable · Answer

Sometimes you go after somebody you’re physically attracted to and you find out they’re not someone you should get deeper involved with.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I need common interests to even be remotely bothered.

thegreenyogi · Answer

The moment i see I am giving way too much than I am given.

slatyb · Answer

Pursuing? I don't pursue. I ask nicely and if it's no, then it's no.

RHK36 · Answer

If they don't in return. I'll give my attention only for so long, eventually they're either into you or just your attention.

exitseven · Answer

A restraining order. Seriously, if I really like her a lot I don;t give up.

madhatters4 · Answer

if they're not into me if circumstances make it hard to build a potential relationship

Screenwriter · Answer

When you find out they're not interested, even if you are. Has to work both ways.

Anonymous · Answer

After few to several years I realize that it's unrequited love, and that she is not going to change her mind.

Cyfris · Answer

Nothing short of a restraining order. Never give up on your dreams!

Kelley1 · Answer

I stop pursuing a guy when I realize he is not interested in a relationship with me.

Still-alive · Answer

If they check all my boxes but they haven't given me the greenlight to date them. i don't invest my romantic energy into anyone who can't reciprocate. But can still be friends.

msc545 · Answer

Usually it's their indifference to me. That makes me stop. It may be something worse than indifference but but indifference is sufficient to cause me to go away

tzdc21 · Answer

When they don't l Like you back or don't reciprocate your interest or efforts

LiamS95 · Answer

Much like you, it's when in my case she dosn't really know what she wants and thus is into more then one guy.

GrammariklyIncorrekt · Answer

If they are showing signs that they aren't feeling the same way

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Same as you but i hardly remember pursuing anyone 🤷🏻‍♂️

AgentG111 · Answer

When everything points they are not into you at all.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

If they make it too hard. I just assume they have multiple partners

dragoblack · Answer

They stop having interest in me. Consent is important and one must accept rejection.

Anonymous · Answer

If they've got baggage or bad attitudes 🛍️ 🛄🛅 or something is amiss / off about them

jaecifer · Answer

Lack in interest for me. Or someone who is a cold hearted bitch

RavVid · Answer

Realizing I am not getting anywhere

fenella · Answer

Go with the flow just see where it goes x

Shiprex · Answer

When they've shown they're not into me

MereAnarchy · Answer

Discovering they are bad.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Returning to my senses.

fish5505_87 · Answer

That sounds about right!

Jeff51 · Answer

When she ignores you

kerem2NT · Answer

I'll keep track of it.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

If She, already turned me down..

Anonymous · Answer

Constant rejection...

Anonymous · Answer

Yes...

LiamJHayden · Answer

She declines.

Randomguy28 · Answer

Disrespect

Daytoday79 · Answer

I get bored.

Unknown527 · Answer

i don't like people

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