Am I overreacting or should I leave my boyfriend over his anger issues?

[Anonymous]

I‘ve been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He is a very sweet and kind person, but recently I have noticed that he gets angry very easily. He already told me this in the beginning, but I never saw it for myself and he also stopped drinking some months ago in order to have better control over his emotions. Recently when we were at a bar, a guy bumped into me by accident and my boyfriend got very angry and threatened the guy that he‘s gonna hit him. He‘s been in multiple physical fights before but he says it was when he was still drinking. His behavior was scary to me. He also started making small comments about me that made me feel hurt and when I expressed it he got mad, said it‘s just how he is and I‘m being too sensitive. He often gets angry about small things and it makes me uncomfortable. Should I try to fix this and how? Or is it best to break up? He also has trouble with the police currently because 2 people, one of them a police officer, filed a report against him. I feel scared. am i overreacting?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

• "He is a very sweet and kind person"
• "a guy bumped into me by accident, he got very angry and threatened the guy"
• "He is a very sweet and kind person"
• "He‘s been in multiple physical fights before"
• "He is a very sweet and kind person"
• "made me feel hurt and when I expressed it he got mad, said it‘s just how he is"
• "He is a very sweet and kind person"
• "He often gets angry about small things"
• "He is a very sweet and kind person"
• "He also has trouble with the police currently"
• "He is a very sweet and kind person"
• "I feel scared"
• "He is a very sweet and kind person"

Welp.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

kind
/kaɪnd/
adjective

1. Generous, helpful, and thinking about other people's feelings
2. Not causing harm or damage

dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/kind

[Asker]

yea you are right, it does not match. i feel like he can be both extremes, so in general he is not truly kind

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

[Master_Debator]

You're not going to fix it. The behavior has been established since when and in practice for how long? ... and you think you're going to fix it?

Listen girl... the honeymoon phase of your relationship is about 2 to 3 months and then the mask starts to slip. You are here... and you're just seeing the begining of just how bad it can get.

[Asker]

yea i think you are right.. do you think he will be abusive towards me? it’s just he was so so sweet in the beginning and he has been through some bad things in his life. but yes i am not a therapist and i don’t think i can fix him especially if he just tells me this is just how he is and i need to accept it

[Master_Debator]

I do think he will eventually point his abusive behavior towards you.

He was so sweet in the beginning because that was the honeymoon phase that every relationship goes through, that's ending.

[Abbycado]

I’d break up. It isn’t going to get better.

[Nikki1989]

Get out now. Most men don't want to change.

[Asker]

yea.. before these issues came, he told me he likes me cause he feels like he can be himself around me and because i‘m not complaining like other women do. and when i expressed how his comments hurt me he said “that’s just how i act, you’re being too sensitive “ and got annoyed with me

[Staximus]

Get away from that guy before he starts beating you

[Jeff51]

I think you can do better. Find a gut with out these problems.

[Jcbvirgo]

Find a way to escape this man and cut off any access to you. You're in an unsafe situation.

[WhitneySnow]

Best to break up