Have you ever really needed help?

[Chazmatazz269]

Some people find it very difficult asking for help. When they manage to get through difficult times on their own, it basically indicates that they never really needed help.
Other people take to asking for help almost too easily, for anything and everything.
My question is about whether or not you ever REALLY needed help. As in you absolutely could not have worked your way out of trials and tribulations alone.
I think most people my age and younger have never really needed help. They merely ask for it because they have become accustomed to a certain level of ease and comfort in their lives. We’re actually extremely resilient and adaptable creatures, human beings. When i am completely honest with myself, i believe that i have only ever really needed help once in my life and it took me years to become desperate enough to muster the courage to actually ask for it. I have asked for help only a couple of times more and i am confident that it was just so that i didn’t become too far removed from my comfort zone.
So, have you ever REALLY needed help? How easily did you come to ask for it? Are you generally quick or slow to ask for help?

[Purpleronnie]

Hmmm ,


Of course I’ve asked for help , perhaps contrary to what many people think I beleive that asking for help actually shows courage


In my humble yet experienced opinion people don’t ask for help as they are worried they may be seen as vulnerable or perhaps they are controlling and won’t give it away to another , or just they don’t want to admit that they don’t have it all covered.. may men in fact have this trait !


So asking for help , you mentally are past the control , the vulnerability and admission that you likely don’t have it all covered. It’s not that your not capable of you lack something although for many asking for help feels like that but why? Having support just makes it easier , why take it ALL ON , you don’t have to


Asking for help takes self awareness and honestly and I beleive we as a race would be a better whole lot better off if we more than not just raised our hands and sought the help we needed and deserve.


Why fall on your sword , struggling alone is slow , frustrating , stressful , causes mental and physical burn out and all for what , so you can beat your chest and say “ I did it “ what an empty victory so much of the time.


Everyone you think has their sh** together just asks for help , you just don’t see it.

[ohsheeT]

I have been i learnd a long time ago all you have in life is your self. I have help so many people on the planet most i didn't even know but I could stand by and watch them struggle but I help them because I could and I was there

[Ms_Facesitter]

Of course. And not easily at all. At this point in time I Could use some. But I'm not reaching out to anybody about it.

[queenofcardio]

Yes. At my lowest points I always reach out to someone. My family is very supportive.

[OneViewpoint]

What are you talking about? Sure I need help all the time. Trying to do a 3 handed job with 2 hands. Here hold this so I can cut it or put these screws in. Put some tension on this rope so the tree falls correctly when I make the final cut. Check the plumb on this fencepost while I pour the concrete. Here, take this scalpel and cut open that infected wound on my back, drain it, hit it with some antibacterial ointment, and throw another bandage on.

[exitseven]

I have recently had major surgery. I needed help just getting out of bed. My wife really did a great job helping me get better.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I need help. But it is hard to know who you can ask.

[Agape93]

Yeap.