Have you ever felt ashamed to ask for help?

[Rangers]

I've been thinking, and I've come along a train of thought which holds not wanting to ask for help as a culprit for a ton of issues I've faced in the past.

As a guy, there is a desire to not rely on others for help and to handle things alone, but this is a dangerous idea as it encouraged me to step outside my lane out of a desire to prove I can handle it.

This is a huge barrier to progress as a desire to handle things alone doesn't mean I will succeed, it just means I need to step back and humble up, ask the right questions, have an experienced person handy, and then maybe.

But this "I gotta do it alone", that needs to stop. While I don't intend to rely on others, I do intend to educate myself more, explore my natural skillsets while gaining new ones, and knowing my place.

One instance where I felt ashamed to accept help was last year when I was hospitalized for a serious lung infection which came as a result of my alcohol problems leading to being taken off Trikafta, a medication for my Cystic Fibrosis which has done nothing less than give me a new life.

Now alcohol is gone, Trikafta is back, coughing and labored breathing are gone, too. But in the hospital, I recieved IV antibiotics, but the IV machine kept on stopping.

Not wanting to keep bothering nurses when all I needed was the IV machine to go back to working, I asked one nurse how to fix it, so I wouldn't be such a burden on the staff.

She giggled and playfully hit me with a newspaper, she was right, those liberties aren't mine to take, the whole reason I was sick, at all, is because I was an irresponsible mess who drank more rum than Jack Sparrow.

This issue was fixed by a PICC line being inserted in me, which I used to finish my rounds of antibiotics and from there, I changed my life but I still feel ashamed to keep hitting the call button when I just needed the machine to work again.

Have you felt ashamed to ask for, or accept assistance from others?

I've felt ashamed to accept help

I have not been ashamed, everyone needs a hand

[sage2021]

Never! I need help with so many things that I am desperate for help. People don't mind helping me either.

[ChillDude4L]

Feel better soon, it's a quite noble thing you have, help can be given without asking, if you are having hard time asking for help, why don't you try helping others, that will help you.

[Rangers]

This was last year, that photo isn't of my arm, it's a photo online.

I had a second hospital stay when the infection came back but the antibiotics killed it, and with me back on Trikafta, it's unlikely I'll be sick again.

Asking others is definitely something I've been doing more, it's just that in this specific case, I felt powerless to rectify the problems with the machine and I don't like having to call girls to do chores for me, which is what it felt like was doing.

Same time, I needed the antibiotics or my condition would've worsened to possibly me not being here. Instead my lung function as doubled.

I hope to keep bad health as a result of bad decisions behind me

[ChillDude4L]

Well, it's you, I get it, I did not let anyone help me with anything. It had consequences but I won't budge. You can't change what you are, accept this shame and move on to other things where you don't ask others for help

[exitseven]

I would be embarrassed to ask somebody how to rebuild my laptop or install a new fanbelt in my truck. Getting a nurse to fix my IV would be okay with me.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Abbycado]

Everyone needs help at some point. I’m not ashamed to ask for it.

[Rangers]

I think maybe guys feel inadequate when a woman has to do something for him because men are supposed to take the wheel and make sure nothing goes wrong.

Me hooked to a machine that constantly broke and I couldn't possibly have fixed, and I had to press a call button, I think that's where the shame came from.

I felt much better once I got a PICC line inserted and could now actually administer my antibiotics completely by myself, and that's what i did from there on. Being able to gome home, too, and bring my own food to my own table, I never thought chores could feel so good

[douride2]

More like to proud to ask for help.

[NathanDavis]

nope