What should I do about the problems between me and my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

[HollyK21]

You either accept it or you leave him. By complaining and complaining, all you’re doing is beating a dead horse at this point. You cannot twist his arm into giving a damn, or force him to stop if he doesn’t want to. He doesn’t want to stop watching p*rn, he doesn’t care if it makes you uncomfortable and he doesn’t care if he loses you. So go ahead and make peace with that so you can decide whether to stay or go.

[Asker]

He said he’s going back to threapy an he’s going to get the help he needs but I really don’t think it help

[HollyK21]

Then you already have your answer. If you know he won’t change then just leave him, why make it so hard?

[Nikki1989]

Some context would help here. What kind of problems?

[Asker]

He watched porn after I told him many times I’m not comfortable with it

[slatyb]

You need to get over this non-problem. How does this affect you? Is he watching porn and ignoring you?

[Staximus]

I don't know, dude. Nobody knows what they are except you. If he beats you, cheats on you, or does hard drugs then just leave him

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle love drama and spot red flags like a pro 💋

If you’re already calling them “problems,” your gut is talking. Be honest with him, calm and clear, no lovebombing, no guilt trips. Say what hurts, what you need, and what must change. If he listens, takes action, and things improve, it’s healthy. If he dismisses, blames, or ghosts emotionally, start planning your exit. Love shouldn’t feel like a constant argument with your own heart.

[Anonymous]

What problems? Can't help if you don't say ehat problems you're having with him

[Jeff51]

What is the problem? You didn't say.

[Asker]

That he keep watching porn even tho he knows I’m not comfortable with it

[Jeff51]

Tell him to stop

[Asker]

I have and he always goes back and relapses even after everything and he’s going back to therapy

[Jeff51]

Will you leave him if he continues?

[Asker]

I already left and it hurt and I want to go back bc I somehow still have hope he will change

[Jeff51]

Try being friends 1st. He has to want to change. Its all on him.

[Asker]

We have tried that in the past it only lasted for a bit bc we ended up kissing and getting back together this isn’t the first time this happened

[Jeff51]

Your going to decide if you really want him. Have you been to theropy with him? Maybe more support is good for him.

[Asker]

No I haven’t and I don't know if I would want to do that bc he said he wants to do this himself

[Jeff51]

Have you asked close friends too?

[Asker]

The first time it happened yes but this time no so i am relying on people online

[Jeff51]

What if he can't stop it. Will you stay or leave him.

[Asker]

Leave him

[Jeff51]

How much more time are you allowing him to get better

[Asker]

I don't know as rn we are broken up and it’s my choose if I wanna go back and text him or just leave it as it is

[Jeff51]

Im sure you can find someone that don't watch porn.

[dudeinohio]

Sit him down and have a serious conversation

[Anonymous]

Depends what they are

[Sunnyrjs]

What is the problem though?