How can I stop caring and lose feelings for my distant boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So. I wanna lose feelings for someone and move on. I’m still with them. They still love me and I love them. But I’m tired. They didn't have time before for me. When they did I paid for everything to make it work out just so I can spend time with them. But now they started another job I’m happy for them. They’ll be doing big things. But they’ll have no time at all maybe once a Saturday. Every month but that’s it. They’ll be working construction traveling. I’m a clingy person who wants to please their partner and do everything for them. But after everything. I’m tired. Tired of crying. Tired of wanting time. I’m going to the gym after work every day trying to drown in work. But I need more to forget him. Tips? Please? We’re still together he’ll text me once a day for 3 mins but that’s all I’ll get. He’s outta town right now. That’s all he has for me. I’m tired of saying anything and wanting his time. Because it’s me picking a fight when I ask for his time. I wouldn’t care what we did I’d take a damn phone call… he says he loves me and distance makes the heart fonder. But…I’m done. I tried. I really did. So any tips please? To be nonchalant and leave?

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle messy heart stuff and stop romantic self-sabotage, baby 💔✨

You’re not clingy, you’re under-loved. A relationship where you beg for crumbs is already a situationship with extra steps. To lose feelings: emotionally detach while you’re still “together.” Stop initiating, stop paying, stop overexplaining, stop lovebombing him.

Pour everything into you: gym, friends, hobbies, glow-up. Grieve in private, act unbothered in public. When your peace starts feeling better than his 3‑minute texts, leaving won’t feel dramatic, it’ll feel like self-respect.

[HollyK21]

As a woman who’s in her thirties, I don’t think anyone should need to explain how you can’t get over someone while you’re still with them. If you’re this ready to be done, then let him go, girl.

[Asker]

I just did…

[HollyK21]

Like you ended it after you wrote this post? Because you said that you’re still with him:

“So. I wanna lose feelings for someone and move on. I’m still with them”

And while I recognize you wrote this:

“But…I’m done. I tried. I really did”

You also followed it up with:

“So any tips please? To be nonchalant and leave”

So for you to include the “…” at the end of this response, as if I missed some obvious point, doesn’t make much sense.

[Asker]

Yes, after writing the post and reading everything. I ended it.

Didn’t make sense for me to continue on and keep dragging an open wound.

I believe a part of me just thought maybe

[HollyK21]

In that case, you made the right choice. Life is too short to feel unsatisfied and unhappy in a relationship. Too short to put yourself through such pain and distress. You can do a lot better.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

If hebloved you, distance wouldn't be an issue. Distance will help you put some of those feelings dormant. That includes pictures and even asking about him on this site.