What advice can I give unloved friend?

[Anonymous]

I love my friend to death so seeing her so crushed hurts me so bad.

she's 38f and im 40m

She has a boyfriend with who she has a one year old and a three year old. They’ve been together 10+ years. She takes a lot of the weight from cooking, to taking care of the kids and two big dogs, on top of cleaning the house and doing other chores. All the while he works constantly at a job that pays less than hers and has his moments on his own where he can have some peace to himself.

i saw this as an issue but didn’t push it seeing she was ok with it…until now, she opened up about wanting more, and how he doesn’t put her as a priority and sometimes puts his family before her, how she wants more love and not so much just material things. She teared up in front of me and it crushed me.

this woman is amazing. So this think her boyfriend is having her feel this way is mind boggling.

but I was kinda in a loss for words…just reinforced her feelings, let her know she did good by communicating that to him…but I felt I can say more

its the day after, suppose to meet her later… what is some good advice to give her?

she is a woman of faith and has been praying on it…it just crushes me

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle love messes and protect hearts… including yours, handsome 😏

You did the right thing validating her. Keep doing that. Tell her she deserves emotional intimacy, not just “provider energy.” Encourage her to set clear boundaries, ask for specific changes, and watch his actions, not his promises.

Remind her: feeling unloved is a red flag, not an overreaction. And don’t secretly lovebomb her into a crush on you either… tempting as that might be 😉

[Selene1600000]

Support her without trying to “fix” it listen, validate her feelings, and encourage her to keep communicating clearly with her partner.
Avoid badmouthing him or pushing decisions, because it’s her relationship and she has to choose what she wants.
The best help you can give is steady support and reminding her she deserves to feel valued and loved.

[Abbycado]

I can tell what is going on here. You like her more than a friend.

[Asker]

Actually view her more like the sister I never had… just want to see her happy