How can I talk to my brother’s partner when we have nothing in common?

[Anonymous]

She looks annoyed or seems uncomfortable because I’m not saying much

[daveed_D]

Honestly, just ask them about the things they’re passionate about and actually listen, even if you don't fully understand the topic. I mean, people love talking about what they love, so asking open-ended questions about their hobbies or work is a great way to break the ice. Honestly though, you don't need a ton in common to just have a warm, friendly conversation and make them feel welcome.

[yellowsombrero]

Well, she is likely uncomfortable if you're not saying much. There's also the idea of bring uncomfortable due to not knowing someone.

So, maybe strike up a conversation? Ask her questions. What is she interested in? She's interested in your brother so there is something in common.

[Asker]

I think I started off well with her then I just realised I struggled to find something in common with her she’s also foreign and I don’t see her as much for me also to feel comfortable I completely shit myself

[ohsheeT]

Be your self stop thinking what she must be thinking if just be you and if all fails say something stupid like do you ever get bored or when you do just call me up let's go and Thelma and Louise for the night and just look at the reaction she gives you and just start laughing

[Iron_Man]

Trying to talk about things that she likes try to smile actually say something because if you never talk, she's gonna get bad vibes. I know you might be shy, but you have to try to communicate and break the ice

[Asker]

I run out of things to talk about after 5 mins absolutely nothing in common it’s hard

[Iron_Man]

I guess you have to practice and by practice you can do it online with people and then It can help you communicate with her better

[Asker]

It just feels super forced and formal it’s super exhausting. I’m only good at talking with people I have in common

[Iron_Man]

Well, you may not have anything in common with her I don’t know, but if you wanna try to get along, then you have to think of things to say if not, its always gonna be like this

[Asker]

She lives in another so it’s not really a huge problem

[Asker]

Haven’t seen her in over a year

[Iron_Man]

OK, well if she comes around Christmas time start practicing conversation because you’ll be seeing her a lot around then

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you decode people and make connections without the awkward silence torture 🫶

You don’t need common interests to have a decent vibe. Talk about simple neutral stuff: how work’s going, weekend plans, funny childhood stories about your brother, compliment her hair or outfit, ask her opinion on something easy.

Smile, be warm, keep it short. Awkward silence is better than fake lovebombing anyway.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, you could just walk up to him and say, "Large weather we're having."
Or, "How about them Dodgers? Yeah, that Tommy LaSorda! What a guy!!"
Or, "Would you mind terribly if I didn't smoke?"
Or, "Ya know, my mother used to wear the same underwear as you."
How about, "I wonder what makes Teflon stick to the pan?"
Or, "It's a good thing we don't live in China `cause everything would be upside down!"

[OfDeath]

Find out what she likes and get prompt her to talk about it.

I had an ex girlfriend whose father was laconic and terse. Hard to talk to someone like that. So I found out what he liked and he was into professional boxing. So I started looking up recent boxing results before I went over there and I’d ask him about it. He opened up.

[Asker]

After like 5mins I run out of things to say

[OfDeath]

Another method is alcohol. It’s a social lubricant. Bring over a slab or a a couple of bottles of high alcohol spirits to break the ice.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I've been seen purposefully shift topics to topics I like when the current topic bores me. But it's strategical thinking I'm not fond of.

So either you try your best with this method, or you find ways to avoid seeing her too often?

[Asker]

I live in another country so it’s not such a huge problem but it’s just hard because I’m so bad with people if I don’t have much in common

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Then you can become competent to change that, but as long as you don't chronically need that competency with people then maybe it's not that important? to develop it

[Asker]

Conversing can sometimes just be boring it’s the same generic questions that everyone does

[Asker]

When you observe people talking they literally talk shite

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Some people like to remain steady with mundane topics yup

[BadApple69]

You need to put more effort in to it. I can talk to strangers in a grocery store about an item in their cart. There has to be something you can talk to her about. You do have one thing in common… your brother. Put more effort in.

[Anonymous]

Just be nice. As time progresses, your relationship will normalize. My brother-in-law was very aloof around us, but he has been much better after a while.

[Asker]

We started off fine but I find that she’s completely into different things I just struggle with interest and I don’t feel comfortable myself

[Opinion Owner]

Just ask her questions about herself, if you have to talk to her.

[andreasderjuengere]

There is no need to talk in such a case.
People talk too much and too often, in general.

[Marissa4]

Ask your brother what she into maybe you’s have something in common.

[genericname85]

i mean you can say that. just adress the awkwardness and how you feel.

[_Jenny_]

That’s hard to do XD