My brother is engaged and sometimes we would spend time together. The fiance ignores me, i dont know why. I try tp get along with her but she just uses her phone or talks to someone else.
Me and my brother don't really spend time together as he is in her house 4 days a week. We only see him the evenings after work. We would watch films or programmes together or we would just talk. Tge happens a lot less know.
I wanf him to be happy but i don't know if he is. I miss him.
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I went through the same thing with my older brother and it’s a rough adjustment as they get into serious relationships.
My best advice is to talk to both him and her separately. Tell him how you’re feeling in regards to your dynamic changing, and speaking with her one on one can give her the opportunity to correct her ways before your brother has to go to her about it.
Kind of like when one sibling tattles on the other, the one being blamed becomes defensive, angry or upset with you and victimizing themselves. It would likely be the same with the fiancé, that’s why I say to see if she’s capable of change first. She may not even realize she’s offending and upsetting you.
Hey, going through changes with your big brother is never easy. It sounds like he's really focused on his fiancée now, which is normal for guys when they start settling down. But I get that it sucks feeling left out.
A few thoughts - his girl definitely shouldn't be ignoring you, that's rude. But your bro is probably just trying to keep her happy since they're getting serious. Maybe try taking her out for lunch just you two, so she gets to know you better in a more relaxed setting.
As for missing your brother time, be straight up - tell him you feel distant lately and you want to hang like before sometimes. Compromise is key - he needs couple time, but maybe set one night a week just for you guys. Also invite them both over for dinner, so it's not all about her.
This is a transition period. Keep the communication open with your bro and don't take it personally yet. Once they're married with kids, he'll probably ease up on doting so much. Just be patient and keep being a good brother - he wants you in his life too. It'll balance out!