Are my brother and I too close?

[Anonymous]

My brother and I didn't spend time together growing up, for one because we have different moms, and our dad left his mom for mine. And my mom didn't want our father bringing my brother around.
So it's been 8 or 9 years since our father has been deceased, and my brother and I started talking I would say 4 years ago. And over that time we've gotten much closer. I talk to him about my troubles that I can't talk to my mother or other siblings about. He's done things such as buy me a pregnancy test.
Whenever we're together we'll cuddle, I'd play with his ears cuz when I was little I'd play with our dads ears, and they have the same ears. And it helps me when something is wrong or if I miss our dad. And so, my brother will sometimes play with my hair, or massage my thighs. (I have a small case of insomnia and it helps)
He's also said he does all this so that I know how to be treated. And when I find a guy, he should do these things. My brother is married by the way.
The way I see this, is we are just making up for the time we didn't get to experience when we were kids.

[WalterRadio]

There are two psychologies in play.

Siblings normally have sexual disgust for each other due to the Wastermack effect. Young children, related or not, that spend time together at the ages of about 4 to 7 (don't quote me on the age limits) do not find each other sexually attractive when they get older.

People who are physically alike often find each other very attractive. This becomes a big problem for siblings, and often 1st cousins who didn't grow up together then meet in their teenage years or later.

You or both of you should probably talk to a psychiatrist or psychologist.

[Mcluven]

If you asking this question you believe that you are crossing the line and what confirmation that its ok. So its up to you

[dbelowzero]

To be honest its great that you two can be so close however that thigh rubbing is a bit too close. It can lead to something a bit weird so I would watch that. However what is making you feel that you are too close? Hugging a sibling or playing with their hair is normal?

[Asker]

One of my closest friends thinks it's weird that we're "oddly close" I tend to remind her we didn't grow up together and I'm his only sibling. So I try to give him an idea of how growing up with a younger sister would of been like.

[dbelowzero]

Well, to be honest American culture isn't really big on much physical contact unless its something sexual. So I assume people will find it weird from time to time. Also you can substitute thigh rubbing for a nice stoke of the back. Like when you're trying to get little kids to go to sleep?

[Asker]

He does rub my back also. But most of the time the leg puts me to sleep faster. Like he'd put a boring movie on and rub my back and within 5-10 minutes I'll be asleep. Anything else would typically take 10 minutes to me probably me not falling asleep.

[LILI101]

I think you guys are too close the cuddling, playing with his ears, play with the hair, massage your thighs. It's big NO NO. Thats only couples do that

[LILI101]

Thank you for MHO =)

[Paulina528]

Yeah that's honestly a little strange he should not be touching your legs. You should not be cuddling with him.

[Asker]

The thigh rubbing only happens when I can't sleep. Like I said. I have a little case of insomnia. If the hair playing doesn't help he sometimes rubs my leg/thigh

[Paulina528]

Yeah but that's weird he shouldn't be doing that.

[MysteriousFlower]

What do you think? These things happens when no-one have boundaries.

[depeche2015]

everything is fine except for the cuddling and stuff. i agree with @lil101 said

[complicated_soul]

Thigh rubs?

:p :p
It's cool that he listens to your troubles.

[Anonymous]

Something smells fishy about the thigh rubbing. #LOVE #LegsOpenVeryEasily #CloseThoseLegs

[LILI101]

hahahahah that was funny

[Opinion Owner]

Like I dont think they're incestual, but the cuddling and thigh rubbing is too much

[LILI101]

i know right XD

[cheergurl13]

do you not get kinda, um, wet, if someone is massaging your thighs?

[Anonymous]

So long as you're not having sex with him you're fine!

[handyman0844]

I think your fine. How does his wife feel about you two?

[sid312]

Yeahhhhhh NO! Thats a little weird

[GFEDATY]

Maybe add me and we can talk further if you like!