Okay, before jumping to any conclusions from my question, please read on. Here’s the quick background – my boyfriend and I live together, we’ve had a long distance relationship since college and have been together for 3 years. I know family is important to him and I understand that. The latest situation that has bothered me is this –
We were planning on taking a trip somewhere for our anniversary, but we can’t book it for that month so we need to go the month before. I’d like to go at the end of the month so that it’s closer to our anniversary. But we refuses because we might have to cut our trip short because it’s his older brother’s birthday on that Sunday. Keep in mind, my boyfriend is 25 and his brother is a few years older. Also, his brother is married and expecting their first child. I think my boyfriend is either just strangely close to his family or thinks they’ll think badly of him. I wish he’d grow up and start focusing on our relationship. I’m not saying to make “us” before his family.
I’d understand if his brother was turning 1, 16, 18 or 21 but seriously I think it’s so ridiculous. There is nothing planned for his birthday, but my boyfriend insists that if there is a dinner that day we’ll have to leave early. So here we are planning our relationship around an imaginary event…I really think he needs to grow up but he says I’m trying to change him. Any advice is much appreciated~
We were planning on taking a trip somewhere for our anniversary, but we can’t book it for that month so we need to go the month before. I’d like to go at the end of the month so that it’s closer to our anniversary. But we refuses because we might have to cut our trip short because it’s his older brother’s birthday on that Sunday. Keep in mind, my boyfriend is 25 and his brother is a few years older. Also, his brother is married and expecting their first child. I think my boyfriend is either just strangely close to his family or thinks they’ll think badly of him. I wish he’d grow up and start focusing on our relationship. I’m not saying to make “us” before his family.
I’d understand if his brother was turning 1, 16, 18 or 21 but seriously I think it’s so ridiculous. There is nothing planned for his birthday, but my boyfriend insists that if there is a dinner that day we’ll have to leave early. So here we are planning our relationship around an imaginary event…I really think he needs to grow up but he says I’m trying to change him. Any advice is much appreciated~
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