What do I do with my brother?

[Anonymous]

While visiting and staying with my family, I caught my younger brother sniffing my panties. I mean really going in at it. When I caught him, he begged me not to tell our parents and that he was just curious and how he would never do it again. He's 15 and I know he's probably curious about stuff like that, but why start with smelling MY underwear? Who knows how long he had been doing that or what thoughts were going through his head. The crazy thing is that I'm missing a pair of panties I packed which leads me to think that he took them doing god knows what. Wtf. What is wrong with him? Things have been so awkward and I'm tempted to tell our parents because that's abnormal right? I mean my little brother literally has been sniffing my underwear both fresh and in my laundry basket and has probably masturbated with thoughts of me? I don't even know what to feel. I'm disgusted, but I also don't want to embarrass him.

[Anonymous]

Hey , I understand that you must be completely freaking out by this and that’s understandable. If I was you I wouldn’t tell you parents as it could cause some serious problems for you brother and could affect your relationship for a long time.

This is just my personal experience, Now I’ve never had a sister but when I was younger I was interested in my step mums underwear. If I’m being honest it wasn’t so much the fact that they were hers, more the fact of curiosity. I did used to smell them, because I want to know what a vagina smelt like. But I mainly I just wore them, I used to love the way they felt. I was almost jealous as women seem to have so many different types compared to men. Like I said I was curious, and that’s how it started. It did however turn into a sexual thing for me. I really don’t know what it was, but the thought of wearing them gave me a complete thrill. The funny thing is about 50% of the time once I finished my business ( if you know what I mean) I would have this sudden rush of guilt and feel like a weirdo. For me this has carried on till adulthood and I’m not even sure why? Or what it is about them.

I personally don’t believe that he is attracted to you, I think it’s because you are a female, he is curious and unfortunately he has easy access to your belongings.

Now I feel that you should act on it how ever you feel about the hole thing. If it is a problem for you (which isn’t unreasonable) you need to talk to him, and tell him what ever he gets up to is up to him and none of your business but once he starts to intrude on you then your not happy. Be firm and say that he can’t use yours but don’t be horrible also, try and be understanding. A lot of males go through this... and everybody has their own kinks.

Tell him that if he doesn’t stop you’ll have to tell your parents.

If you genuinely felt understanding, you could always offer to buy some panties pretending they were for you but give them to him and leave it as that. Tell him you don’t want to see or here about it any more.

The decision is completely down to you but just remember what problems could be caused in the family if you tell your pedants. I honestly hope it goes well for you.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. What will you accomplish by telling your parents?

2. I am not condoning or encouraging this behavior but this is not wildly aberrant behavior in post-pubescent boys. He is curious. You and your panties are near and readily available. He is driven by hormones. He knows that this is wrong and he will be embarrassed when you confront him.

3. You do need to confront him, Tell him that you will not report this to your parents under two conditions. First, he must immediately stop rummaging through your clothes and laundry. Second, the missing panties must be returned immediately.

4. Explain to him that you understand that hormones can be overwhelming at times but there are far more appropriate ways of dealing with the problem. If you feel like it, offer to talk to him privately and periodically about such matters to offer him some guidance.

5. Doing these things may be a bit awkward for you but it is the best way to protect your dignity, salvage the relationship with your brother, and resolve the awkwardness you are currently feeling.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Talk about awkward. Sit down with him and tell him, you won't tell your parents about it but he should stop what he's doing with your stuff. You understand he's curious and his hormones are flying off the hook sexually but it is still wrong of him even thinking about you in a sexual way... If he keeps doing it, then just confide in your mother. It's a family matter that needs to be addressed seriously.

[Justacatlady]

I'd try and talk with him again. You happen to live with him so it may just be that they are available and that is why he snags yours. Express your concerns with him and maybe educate him that having sexual desire is okay, but stealing and sniffing your panties is not. I think you should also give him a boundary. Let him know that if you catch him again, you will tell your parents.

[Asker]

He already knows about sex though. He knows about this stuff already. He's not naïve. And I'm sure he knows he was wrong. I will confront him though so I can get his full explanation.

[Justacatlady]

Are you sure he knows? Just because a person knows the basics, like how sex happens doesn't automatically mean they understand the small nuances of sexual behavior.
Confrontation is good but try to be calm. There may be an underlying issue as well. If you know he knows it isn't right, maybe ask him what compels him to do it?

[Asker]

I'm almost positive he knows. Our parents are very blunt when it comes to sex, always have been. It is not taboo and they've never hid the topic like other parents have. I know he knows that he crossed a line. He could've easily had just watched porn or got a magazine, but he took it upon himself to invade my privacy. I don't plan on telling our parents and I definitely will ask what made him do it and try to be calm but remain strict at the same time. If I told, he'd get in a lot of trouble, but I bet he wouldn't dare to it again, to me or any other girl.

[Justacatlady]

Yeah, I think you have a good plan and I hope it works out for you.

[acooke-13]

Talk to him privately, let him know that you're not comfortable with what he's doing, and in a sense it is wrong. Tell him if he keeps at it and you catch him, you will tell you're parents.

[2opaz]

i think it is more common than people think

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[2opaz]

at least you know you don't smell bad lol

[2opaz]

you should help your brother get a girlfriend

[Enigma69]

it might be uncomfortable, but its a normal part of growing up, its the closest thing he has to a female scent, even though its his sisters. if u confront him about it you will embarrass the hell out of him. if u can find a way to ask him why he takes your underwear, it could be a good start. its hormonal from his point of view in my opinion.

[false]

i think my sister wouldve told my parents if i did that. im pretty sure id be embarassed as hell but it would teach me a good fucking lesson.
maybe in a few years itll become a funny story to tell the guests who knows😂

[chaostheory81]

Maybe try and think of it as an underwear fetish instead of your underwear. He won't exactly have access to them. It's not a great situation... But at 15 his hormones will be all over the place! Have you tried asking him?

[H2OHydrox]

Talk to him privately about what has been going on. I understand your disgust and confusion, but he probably feels the same way, or worse. If you talk to him directly, then you have an opportunity to help him focus his energies in positive ways.

[Anonymous]

Haha it's kinda normal. Cause I've seen a lot of girls ask this question.

My advice would be. EDUCATE him. Make him understand what is right and what is wrong. You're older and smarter. Be mature and make him mature. He's in his early teens and his hormones are boiling at the moment 😂. Help him understand and make sure he doesn't do so again - cause no matter how alluring it is, an underwear is still an underwear and its gross (eh.. Unhygienic as well)

[jackyboyo]

Tell your parents, that's not healthy, your his sister.

[2opaz]

you're*

[jackyboyo]

Thanks dude, I'm sure that really contributed to the askers answer

[audaciter85]

I used to do that. I wasn't attracted to my sister, just the panties. I would wear them when I was home alone.

[Cannuk22]

I think it’s a normal think for guys. The weird part is your his sister. That is not right but maybe he is really horny and he had no way to get what he wanted. I’d leave it for now and make sure he knows your not ok with it

[Feby_1]

You are the only one who could educate him... make him understand he's your brother.

Sister and Brother relation is heavenly and not some TV series like 'GOT'

B wise

[Anonymous]

Dont talk about with your parents, nor with him. He is 15... things like that happen. He was just being curious, unfortunately you caught him. You just act normal around him. He will stop doing that.

[ilikesourlemons]

it’s normal for guys to be turned on by the scent of panties

[Anonymous]

Tell him to get a girlfriend and stop being a creep.

[ImMackFreeze]

Yeah, I don't know that is a tough call.

[SomeGermanDude]

Get him the real thang.

[Aberighton]

Disown him tbh

[BobbyC65]

Jest talked to him.

[Trollfather]

Looool.

[Delroy1995]

Sexy 😂😂😂