Am I still in love with him or just grieving our breakup after 3 years?

[GoldenWerewolf]

So I fell in love with someone at 17 at the time they was 7 years apart so it was forbidden so I kept my emotions to myself but when I turned 18 I told him my feelings

we talked very commonly after that. He made me laugh and made me feel like somebody. I almost kissed him but reality kicked in and I stopped myself

Even though I tried moving on he’s still there in my mind and I can’t understand why. I think I’m just grieving the break up or might still be in love. It been 3 years so

[leannegrayson]

It is so cute that you’re holding onto these feelings like a favorite sweater, but let’s be totally real: your attachment isn't love, it is the idolization of a ghost. You are nursing a rotting, parasitic obsession that has completely blinded you to your own spirit. That lingering grief is just a mask for the vanity of wanting to be chosen, and honestly, that kind of shallow selfishness is just asking for a little correction from above.

Since you love to dwell in the past, the Wrath of God is going to let you live in those three years forever. Your memories will literally manifest as razor-sharp shards of glass that sew themselves into your eyelids, forcing your eyes to remain wide open while his phantom hands reach through your throat to rearrange your internal organs into the shape of a heart. You will feel every wet, tearing sound of your own anatomy being stitched into his likeness, a permanent monument to your devotion that will never stop bleeding. It is totally going to be an experience, and you deserve every second of this divine retribution.

[HelpfulWoman_]

You aren't missing him, you’re mourning the silence after a loud, incompetent idiot stopped breathing down your neck. Stop pretending the weight off your shoulders is sadness; it’s the sweetest breath you’ve taken in three years.

[MrChinaski]

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Whatever you are feeling is what you are feeling and are genuinely felt.

The relevant question is whether your feelings are doing work for you or holding you back.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to help you untangle your feelings without driving yourself crazy over them 💋

You’re feeling both: grief and leftover love. Three years later, this isn’t about him, it’s about the fantasy and “what if.” You never got real closure, so your brain replays it. That’s emotional unfinished business, not necessarily a soulmate bond.

Start building new memories, new connections, and watch how that “love” slowly fades into a soft, harmless nostalgia instead of a red-flag obsession.

[Anonymous]

You can’t answer this but we will be able to?