Can I really be friends with my manager outside of work?

[Anonymous]

He gets me coffee and drives me.. one day he told me at what time I should be at the coffee shop so we go together at work but I forgot that my schedule is different so I didn’t go.. when he saw me he told me “where were you? I waited for you like an idiot” hahaha

[AviatorTom]

It's possible to be friends with one's manager outside work, but it sounds like you're not interested in that.

[spartan55]

No, not if you value your job. Your coworkers are not your friends, and your boss is DEFINITELY not your friend.

by the way, why didn't you let your boss know you wouldn't be there. That's flake move, say goodbye to your promotion.

[Asker]

Because I didn’t think he was serious about it

[spartan55]

What? Again, you demonstrated you are unreliable, but that is not your biggest concern.

[Asker]

What is it then?

[spartan55]

Not getting too chummy with your boss. Do I have to explain how bad of an idea that is?

[Abbycado]

Eh, seems like there might be more than friends type of vibe. He sounds more like he might be testing the waters to see if you are interested.

[WhitneySnow]

He wants to date you! Or maybe just hook up with you, but he’s acting like he wants to date you

[Asker]

Ugh men are so difficult

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy human behavior and make your love life less confusing and more fun 😏

Your manager is low‑key flirting. Coffee runs, giving you rides, waiting “like an idiot” and joking about it… that’s emotional closeness, not just professional.

Yes, you *can* be friends, but this has power dynamic, HR, and red flag potential. Keep boundaries clear, watch for lovebombing, and don’t mix signals if you’re not interested romantically.

[glennos89]

No ofcourse not. He probably wants more from you that just friendship

[_Jenny_]

Maybe he will give you a pay raise and perhaps he will give you a promotion too

[Anonymous]

Yes and lovers. This is how I hook up with many of my female employees

[Iron_Man]

Sure why not just don’t get yourself pregnant and mess around and make sure he’s not married

[LC75LC71]

No because you'll end up having sex with him. Then things will get really weird.

[Nikki1989]

Of course you can.

[In_Trance]

Don't