You think my boyfriend has Borderline personality disorder?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has anger issues, one day he says I can’t believe I’m with you I'm going to dump you because we are too different and then the next day he says you are perfect for me I’m happy with you! This sounds more like bpd or bipolar? Why is it more Borderline Personality Disorder? After he breaks up with me he feels upset and cries says he’s sorry then wants to get back with me. I think this is fear of abandonment part of BPD and acts nicer more differently more loving and wants sex more when he’s drunk. He drinks a lot too. What do you think?

This sounds like he definitely has Borderline Personality Disorder

He most likely doesn't have borderline personality disorder but probably has something else.

[Anonymous]

Look. All these "disorders" are like taste descriptions. "Spicy." "Sour." "Sweet." Same shit. There is no such thing as "root cause disorder" just like "bitter" is not an ingredient. As such these labels aren't needed when you already described "breakup and crawl back". Listing that behavior is like listing the ingredient "ammonia". There is no need to label it "bitter" (with the borderline label, etc).

I might have a bunch of plans to cure him, but i will not tell you so that you don't try become his therapist, because it is not even clear if he wants one in the first place.

[bowenw]

It sounds more like BPD to me, but I'm not a doctor. If he refuses to seek medical treatment, I suggest you move on.

This website may help you understand him better:
https://www.meetradial.com/blog/bpd-vs-bipolar

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[HollyK21]

He’s not bipolar just toxic AF and emotionally manipulative. You couldn’t pay me to give a man like that the time of day, let alone letting it happen repeatedly. Do better for yourself girl.

[beenherebefore]

I'm no doctor to be able to diagnose him BPD but he's certainly mentally unstable and I don't understand why you keep putting up with this.

[AI Opinion]

On GAG my aim is to help you decode behaviors, spot red flags, and protect your heart, gorgeous 😉

What you’re describing fits more with BPD traits than bipolar. Bipolar is about mood cycles over weeks, not “I hate you / I love you” from one day to the next. That push–pull, fear of abandonment, breaking up then crying and begging back, emotional extremes, plus heavy drinking = huge red flag.

You can’t “love him healthy.” Protect your boundaries, avoid lovebombing–then–devaluing cycles, and seriously consider whether this relationship is safe for your emotional well‑being.

[PinkNoir]

I don't know what he has but sounds like my ex. I highly recommend leaving for your safety. Highly likely to get worse.

[WhitneySnow]

Could be borderline or could be bipolar. Only a psychiatrist can tell for sure.

[Asker]

What do you think?

[WhitneySnow]

Could be either. I’m no expert and neither are most people on here. Take him to a psychiatrist and let them diagnose him.

[slatyb]

Doesn't matter what he has. Don't stay with someone who has anger issues and is not actively working on them.

[DonaldDarko]

He sounds nuts. Don't ruin your life with someone like that.

[In_Trance]

I think you're insane for staying with someone that threatens to dump you.
Fuck that.
Gtfo of there

[Asker]

Ok but I’m asking if you think he has BPD

[In_Trance]

What does it matter? When someone says something like that to you you have some self respect and you dump their ass.

[Anonymous]

What ways are you different? Maybe it’s not bpd. Maybe you are not what he wants. Not his type in looks. And he’s just there for the emotional validation

[exitseven]

There is nothig borderline about his personality disorder.

[Pterodon]

Better question is why do you keep taking him back knowing nothing will ever change then bitch about it?

[Agape93]

Possibly but that's only one criteria

[Asker]

What’s the other criteria?

[Agape93]

Google it

[Anonymous]

Or maybe he is just as ass.