Guys, Would you leave your wife just bc she's going through menopause -- or would you try counseling?

[DishLady]

I was being chatted up by a guy who left his wife of 30+ years bc of menopause.

I suppose things were said... but they have three great kids together. he supports all of them...

According to him, he had to leave her bc she was crazy... and according to her, she wanted him to leave bc she was so bored, bc life was too short, blah blah blah.

Personally I can't see how a marriage that lasts 30+ years would suddenly just fall apart bc of menopause. Why not try counseling?

He told me they were high school sweethearts... that she was the love of his life... and he was hers... but that doesn't add up since he was sitting in front of me chugging J&Cs like they were shots.

Yes I'd leave her.

No, I would at least try counseling first bc I know this is a temporary thing for her.

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Just asked the complimentary question to the Gals: Girls, would you leave your long-term (30+ year relationship) just bc you're feeling bored? ↗

[HawkPerception]

Just my personal opinion, but if a man leaves his wife just because she's going through menopause, he never actually loved her in the first place, and he has a pathetic character, and a lack of emotional intelligence and empathy.

Just reading that made me angry. He doesn't deserve a woman in his life.

That being said, if there were other reasons for him leaving, like being miserable with her because she put him down all the time, never made an effort to understand him, always refusing to have sex with him, giving up on him on random Tuesdays, etc., then those are justifiable reasons to leave. But just going off what you said, he sounds like a scumbag.

[DishLady]

Who knows?

[OlderAndWiser]

My first marriage later 17 years. Two years after getting married, she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. I stayed. She became self centered, quit working, and contributed nothing to the marriage. I stayed. She became addicted to prescription medications. I stayed.


She became violent and refused treatment. I got an injunction against her. She filed for divorce.


She eventually lived with her sister. Her sister died, so my ex married the brother in law. My ex died recently.


Isn’t life strange?

[molonski2]

It seems a simplistic explanation, and most will say No No No and that's reasonable , but also menopause for some , who refuse to face it , try and do anything about it , can be pretty dam horrible and extremely nasty..

And the line " he didn't love her anyway " nonsense , he put up with plenty of 30 years , and 3 kids , the reason sounds simplistic , but they should celebrate what they had and move on with separate lives.

Life is far too short to sit like a SIMP , and suffer emotional abuse. The easy answer is saying " Ohh I'm so great , we'd stay and go to counseling" well now both have a shot at freedom , it may just be for the best.

When you are 30 , you don't realise how this change of life can affect some women.

[Spencer10]

Through sickness and health right? Man up and be there for her.

[exitseven]

I took the whole until death us do part thing pretty literally.