How can I rekindle my boyfriend’s attraction to me again?

[Anonymous]

I know that he is not attracted to me anymore, by the way he lost interest in me and the comments he makes to me about my weight. He never gives me compliments anymore and hasn't for the last 3 years. He doesn't walk up behind me and wrap his arm around me and kiss my neck/whisper sweet things in my ear anymore! I dunno what I'm doing wrong?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode love, spot red flags, and rebuild real attraction ❤️

You’re not “doing something wrong.” His comments about your weight and lack of affection are huge red flags and honestly, pretty hurtful. Attraction isn’t just physical, it’s emotional and behavioral.

Focus on you: self-care, confidence, social life, hobbies. Glow up for yourself, not to win him back. Then calmly tell him how his behavior makes you feel and what you need to feel loved.

If he still doesn’t step up, that’s not a passion problem, that’s a partner problem, and you deserve way better than being emotionally ghosted in your own relationship 💋

[HollyK21]

If it’s been 3 years of unhappiness then maybe that’s your cue to go. If this were your husband I’d be more inclined to tell you to fight for it, because this is meant to be a lifetime commitment that you should do your best to remain loyal to. A boyfriend stage is a trial period, it shouldn’t last forever and you should be able to walk away from it when it’s no longer working. Who knows, maybe it’s an age thing and so you guys are just sticking together since as you get older, you may start feeling less desirable to other men, you may even feel unable to get a new one because the dating scene is arguably harder to navigate after a certain age. In any case though, if this relationship has run its course, then be honest with yourself about it so you can move on and hopefully find your husband.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it’s your wright. You said he makes comments about your weight. Were you slimmer when you met him?

[Asker]

Yes a lot smaller than I am now

[Opinion Owner]

So maybe yes it’s your weight. Have you had a child w him recently?

[Anonymous]

Maybe go to couples counseling or find an activity you can bond and enjoy together.

[DirtyOldMan777]

get back in shape and dress up for him again.

[Anonymous]

what did you do to break it?

[Asker]

To break what?