Hey everyone. So my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years. things haven’t always been the best. i’m sadly the type of person who can’t let go of the past so i bring it up a lot if it hurt me. so he has done a lot of stuff that hurt me. why i’m still with him? bc i was hoping for a change. he has stopped a lot of the stuff he had done that hurt me. however, i have noticed that i am not as fun as i used to be. i have changed a lot for him and i can only blame myself. i barely hang out with my friends anymore so i really have nothing to talk about when i am with him. he sometimes wants to hang out so much with me and all i want to do is stay home and recharge. so on Thursday i spent the whole day with him so by the end of the day i was so tired and he thought i had a huge attitude. he got so upset with me that on Friday he told me that he doesn’t benefit anything by hanging out with me. so i said all right and hung up. he called me late that night and showed up at my house. i didn’t answer. and he only called me once today and didn’t text me. so i’m wondering how i can loose the attitude when i am with him and be happy with him.
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he has stopped doing the things that has upset me. he doesn’t do it anymore
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If nothing has changed in 9 years sadly nothing will ever change. Why should you be the only one to change if he also doing things that are upsetting you. Maybe you both really need to take a break from one another and ask yourself both if you are truly happy with each other because it seems your relationship has hit a dead end
he doesn’t do it anymore. he doesn’t do things that upset me anymore
You are delusional. I stand by what I said your relationship is dead. I'm not going to sit here and argue
You're in a toxic relationship let it go and move on for the best for both of you and a little advice he is not going to change.
Things won't change, sorry