If a man doesn't want to be bothered does that mean he won't be a good boyfriend or husband?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

He highly enjoys spending alone time a lot to feel free but he is highly respectful, not needy at all, kind, loving, giving, doesn't bother his woman at all and gives her plenty of freedom for her to do her own thing in and outside the home etc can he still be a good husband?

[Anonymous]

I will tell you a chat I had with a married uber driver and I will let you be the judge.

He told me that he married his wife in north carolina but then moved to NYC, a place he was not fond of, because his kids would get a better education there. After his child was born, he left his lucrative job in software engineering for a job with a more flexible schedule so that he can spend more time with his child. He has a lot of fun with his kids, never complained about spending too much time with them, never complained about having to change a smelly diaper, all his free time was dedicated to his wife and children. He absolutely loved taking care of his family. He had no friends and only goes on vacations with his family. Currently he is working extra hours as an uber driver so that he can pay his oldest daughter's college tuition. After work, he goes straight home to enjoy his family.

so... does it sound like someone who constantly wants alone time and focus on himself would make a good husband and father?

You might make a good boyfriend. but you will never make a great husband / father.

Being a husband / father requires a lot of dedication... if dedicating your life to your wife and family is something you can't do... you won't make a good one.

[Opinion Owner]

this man is an exceptional husband and father. A man who has made tremendous scarifies to create more memories with his children. A man who would work extra hours to send his kid's to college. His wife would never have to worry him cheating after work since he comes home immediately after work.

[Opinion Owner]

this man is an exceptional husband and father. A man who has made tremendous *****sacrifices**** to create more memories with his children.

[Iron_Man]

It’s amazing how people can have incredible conversations from a taxi driver or an Uber driver within about 15 minutes

[Opinion Owner]

@Iron_Man

35 mins

[Iron_Man]

I’m glad you enjoyed the conversation. Good experience you must’ve had a long drive.

[Opinion Owner]

@Iron_Man

After this conversation, I am just reminded that I've never seen such an amazing husband and father exist in American culture. Only immigrants take care of their families so well.

Maybe I should marry an immigrant.

Americans are too selfish and constantly focusing on themselves. That's why the American divorce rate is so high. When you come first before your family, that's why things will never work

[Iron_Man]

Well that was very special. I agree many Americans are very selfish and everything is always about them and everything fails, but I’m not like that at all

[Opinion Owner]

@Iron_Man

Most American adults don't even take care of their parents.

[Iron_Man]

That’s horrible. They just
Throw them in a nursing home.

[Opinion Owner]

@Iron_Man

plus... American grandparents don't babysit their grandkids. This is why parenthood is so difficult on young American parents compared to other cultures. It's usually two parents struggling alone.

[Opinion Owner]

@Iron_Man

Meanwhile in other countries such as asia, it is very common for grandparents to babysit their grandkids. Grandparents would do it for free.

[Iron_Man]

That’s probably true what you’re saying but I’m not familiar with Asian culture so I don’t know.

[Abbycado]

If he doesn’t want to be bothered, why would he want a girlfriend? This is so stupid

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Do you like to be bothered? Since when its stupid to be in a relationship and still enjoy peace?

[nastyb]

@Hispanic-Cool-Guy

what kind of good husband hates coming home to his wife cuz he needs more alone time?

what kind of a good father rather go out to the bar alone after work than to come home immediately to take care of his children?

A good husband / father is a man who puts the needs of his family first, not his own.

[Anonymous]

It could be he just hasn't found the woman yet he WANTS to be bothered by.

It's really hard to answer this question without knowing him. Because some men are super loyal. And would make an an exceptional husband or boyfriend. These men don't necessarily wear their heart on their sleeve. But you can ALWAYS count on them. It takes a truly observant woman to recognize this about them.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. I’ve been w my girl for almost 20 years. I’ve never wanted to be bothered by people. I enjoy my peace. Now if she fits into that puzzle of bringing peace, femininity, love, etc, then it’ll work like it has for me almost the last 20 years. Some people just don’t want to be bothered by everyone else. That doesn’t mean they don’t want a girlfriend.

[DragonDan444]

If he finds someone who’s the same way as him where both persons respect one another’s space and needs space. The answer is no. It depends on other factors. I don’t think clingy is bad either if both people are clingy.

It may just take time to find someone compatible is all.

[Iron_Man]

It’s dangerous because if you don’t give the girl much attention, she could cheat on you. Maybe you better move to the mountains, a mountain town my friend and get out of the big city according to your picture you want peace and to relax, and you’re not gonna get much peace in this town unless you live in a very expensive neighborhood with a lot of property space. But of course I get it your are attached to your mother and you don’t wanna leave her. I completely understand.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

A woman that is going to cheat will cheat regardless.

[exitseven]

It depends on the expectationa of the woman. some women are more needy that others.

[Pretendingtobesweet]

Mann

[jahaims]

Sounds like you aren't emotionally healthy enough to bond properly

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Because I like personal space a lot means I'm not emotionally healthy?

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

Arnt women the same?

[Anonymous]

I find that to be true

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Can you explain how so?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, he could still be a good husband but also he seems to like his alone time. That makes me wonder?

[Honeyateleven]

Marriages are destined