As a Black woman, is it wrong to prefer dating outside my race?

[Anonymous]

Me being a black girl and in my mid twenties. I only date a few black guys. But it seems like black guys are only after one thing. My girl friend is also black. She has dated a bunch of white guys and she says white guys treat her better like he princess.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Dating is dating & I think it’s wonderful to date outside your race.

In my 20’s it was my first experience going out with a lovely black girl.

We went snow tubing & went out to eat & we both had a great time.

Long story short after driving her home I went to walk her to her door & she noticed her father looking out the window giving me the look of death & she said I’ll call you tomorrow my father looks really mad right now.

A day later I called her house, she wasn’t home & her mother answered.

Her mother was all for it but when her father found out I was white one hell of an argument started in that household the night I dropped her off.

In life I always say if you never try you will never know & in life if you like someone you shouldn’t be afraid to let them know. Date whoever you want & as long as they make you happy that is all that counts.

[Chazmatazz269]

No, preferences aren’t intrinsically wrong, as long as you’re not hurting or taking advantage of someone.
In fact, the prevailing theory strongly suggests that genetic diversity is superior to genetic uniformity. So more people should probably procreate outside of their ethnicity.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle love, attraction, and all the messy human stuff in between 💕

Nothing about your preference is wrong. Attraction isn’t a social justice project, it’s chemistry, safety, values, and how someone treats you.

Date who makes you feel cherished, respected, and secure, not who others think you “should” be with.

Just watch out for fetishizing and lovebombing. Being treated like a princess is great, being treated like a trophy is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

I am not a black guy, but here this will kind of explain it. In short, a lot of white women want the black guy do to a fetish thing and it's no different for a white guy. a lot of the guys are into the cockold thing where the black guy is the sleeping with his wife infront him while sits and watches.

The white guy in the video is already talking about a black guy attacking. It's similar to women who have the fantasy for black men.

Like how the white guy will talk down on rap and then you see post malone making rap music.

It's fine to date a white guy who respects you, but becareful its not a fetish thing for the white guy. That's it and good luck.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/tqbGyHoJh9s

[texasgirl012]

No it’s not wrong at all. Like, I’m white and I definitely have a strong preference for particular Blacks. I’m kind of doing the same thing they are when they chase attractive white girls, because I’m after that one thing they say about Black guys. It’s not true of all Blacks, but it’s a lot more than white guts for sure that have it. So I love when Black girls express this, because it kind of convinces the kind of Blacks I’m looking for to go even harder for girls like me. Had that kind of preference can be very hot for people who need it and fine if it’s for people who are into their relationship thing. I say go for it.

[melnc]

Well, I'm grown enough to know it ain't 'bout color, it's 'bout the man himself. Your girl had her luck, and that's fine, but that don't make it your story. Some fellas are good, some ain't... white, black, or whatever.
You're a grown woman. Trust your own gut, date who treats you right, and quit worryin' 'bout what folks gotta say. Do what works for you and ride on.

[RingOfFire]

I'm white. I've dated black girls and had one very special one in my life. You shouldn't even have the thought in your mind that there might be something wrong with it. Whose life is it? Yours or the people who might object? You only live once. Follow your own star and don't let other people dictate who you can and cannot love. Life is too short for that pettiness.

[Anonymous]

Why would that be wrong? It would only be wrong if they were fetishizing you. And even then it wouldn't be so much wrong as it would just be foolish. But based on what you said about black men that wouldn't suggest a lot of difference.

Date people who VALUE you regardless of color.

[Chayce]

Do whatever you feel like. Who cares what other people think. It's your life. Don't ask for permission to date someone you feel attraction to, regardless of race or whatever.

[FunkyMonkee]

Not at all. These days, it happens all the time!

[Jersey2]

My white son is fating a black girl. She is more of a country girl. They are a good match.

[Jersey2]

Dating* not fating.

[dudeinohio]

You are totally free to date whoever you want, regardless of race.

[Nikki1989]

Nope.

[bowenw]

There are no rules.

[Abbycado]

Nope.

[lilBigPotato]

Nope 🤷‍♀️

[Agape93]

Nope

[Pretendingtobesweet]

No why not?