My ex told me a person like me should never have kids. How can I deal with this?

[Anonymous]

Last night he talked to me saying he could never be with someone like me again and called me mentally challenged when I’m not and called me a slut when not. I want to actually be serious and be a mom one day and many people that are decent said to me that I should be able to have kids one day and that I will be an amazing mother. He’s been with me for 6 years and is questioning my abilities and saying someone like me shouldn’t be a mother because I’m too mentally challenged to and won’t know how to take care of a kid which is not true. Is he right? He told me right in my face to get my tubes tied because I’m not right in the head and told me no one would never would want to be with me. This made me upset and haven’t spoken to him since. This isn’t true right and he’s an asshole and ignorant right?

He’s right and I should be sterilized and people like should never have kids

He’s wrong and I will be an amazing mother one day and deserve to have kids one day

[Coercion_Is_Trauma]

Sterilized? No. Instead if you have the desire to raise children then use it as a motivation to unfuck your brain which your parents fucked up. Bad parenting is the root of all evil and mental retardation. Think about that. If you would have had good parents then you wouldn't be asking this. Even actually impaired defective brains would not act retarded if those raising them knew what the hell they are doing. Mental retardation can go away and only after that happens, you should have healthy children with a flawless pair of best parents in history... ㅤ

[Asker]

You are right!! How can I fix my brain so I’m
Not mentally retarded anyone so I can have kids one day? You agree with him that mentally challenged people even mild should never have kids?

[Asker]

Dm me back

[Coercion_Is_Trauma]

So i asked you in dm when did things start being abnormal and what your childhood was like. I ask because it is important and not because i am nosey. Childhood is the cause of phobias that people think are normal. Even a lot of chronic physical diseases are caused by screwed up childhood psychology. Mental retardation, i proclaimed to be retarded because i knew that something was off but it had not matched anything diagnosable.

Really, because nobody knows how exactly the nature of reality itself works, nobody can for certain have the answers to mental health. There are compelling thousands of cases for reincarnation, and if we reincarnate then surely that changes the mainstream model of mental health. Nobody knows how premonitions work, but if our collective unconscious is a sort of "oneness" with all, then is it possible that by processing traumas internally, we unlock the external world to do that which was unreachable?

[Asker]

My childhood was fine.

[slatyb]

Forget about it. He's a narcissist, very insecure, feels small, and the only thing that helps is making others feel worse. If you are having trouble getting past his cruelty, consider seeing a professional counselor. I was in a marriage like this. At the end I got counseling and it was an enormous help.

[Anonymous]

He is being prejudiced. Liking to hook up before you’re a mom does not have anything to do with whether you’ll make a good mom. But hooking up obsessively after you have kids makes you a very bad mom for reasons that are both obvious (to neurotypical people) and too complicated to get into right now.

[midnightmoon05]

Why are you still talking to an ex? What outcome do you want from these calls?
move on… if you want to have a good healthy relationship and kids… he is not the one.
you need to heal up, be well. Take care of yourself so you can meet a decent man to share your goals.

[Asker]

Why? Because we are still friends. But you agree with him?

[Asker]

And please vote in my poll.

[midnightmoon05]

That’s not how friends treat each other. You need to move on… otherwise be prepare to be abused more.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you see your worth clearly, especially when someone’s trying to crush it, gorgeous.

He’s not just an asshole, he’s emotionally abusive, full stop. Calling you “mentally challenged” and telling you to tie your tubes is a massive red flag, not truth. That’s projection, cruelty, and control, not love.

You absolutely can be a great mom one day. Healthy partners encourage, they don’t lovebomb then tear you down. Block, heal, glow up. His opinion doesn’t decide your future, your actions do.

[PeachyPie93]

He's just abusive and wants to tear you down.. His words mean nothing..

[Asker]

That’s true his works definitely means nothing

[choco-latte]

He just sounds like a butt-hurt asshole, don’t talk to him again. He’s just trying to hurt you.

[Nikki1989]

Weak men like to tear women down or at least try. Ignore his BS.

[_Jenny_]

You should have your children and make sure you are a good mother

[Pterodon]

Disregard this. It came from an ex. Why are you still communicating?

[Mariogirl09]

Why did he say that to you?

[Asker]

Why? Because he thinks a person like me should never have kids because he thinks I’m mentally challenged. I cried after he said that because I have every right to have kids one day. Disabled people have every right to.

[AgentG111]

Prove him wrong.

[wkhan_87]

Don't take it seriously

[Asker]

I won’t why would he say that?

[Anonymous]

Why do you keep making up stories?

[Asker]

I’m not making this up he said that to me last night!! Stop accusing me of lying