If you caught your husband in bed with a man, what would you do?

[EmmaMary]

This question was inspired by a similar one asked by @AviatorTom

My own answer and response would be to seek getting divorce papers raised and submitted.

[Vesuvius87]

Same response as if I were to caught him in bed with another woman; file for divorce, contact an attorney and limit our conversation to sharing custody of our son. He'll still be in my son's life and is responsible for equally providing for him until he turns 18.

The gender of the affair partner doesn't change the outcome. That's still cheating.

[Mark_Est]

It is always funny how women default to saying MY son/daughter. While men usually always say OUR. You did say our too, in the sentence above but in general one seest that BS a lot😅

Secondly, sure, cheating is bad. However why are you women always acting high and mighty? You expect him to be traditional, to marry you, to provide for the children and you and etc. But how many of you were traditional virgins for the man? Funny.

[Vesuvius87]

@Mark_Est
I'm already seeing a contradiction there. While we're both providing for our son (I did said he would still have to equally contribute in that hypothetical scenario) and that's a major neccessity and responsible (not just a choice to be made), the virginity is generally really out of choice. The older someone gets married the less likely to still be a virgin.
If she's so much into virginity (and younger) then she would be seeking a virgin groom too. Why should only she be the one waiting indefinitely for some former party animal that doesn't share traditional views about sex?
If someone marries much older, they are looking for other things they're compatible with; that goes beyond virginity by then. Neither my husband nor me are religious.

[Vesuvius87]

We had our non-religious wedding at a beautiful city hall and then the dinner reception area.

[Mark_Est]

Sounds more like you are dodging accountability.

Are you also funny, charismatic, skilled, smart, strong, rich and tall like the men that you want?

Hypocrisy much?

Its almost like men and women have different jobs/task. Women offer fertility and sexual purity. Men provide and protect. That is the trade.

So again, really, if you aren't traditional yourself, you can't really expect him to be.

[Vesuvius87]

@Mark_Est
Neither my husband nor me are rich but we're both stable middle class people. As for height, both of us are above average for our genders; he's 6'2 and I'm 5'7. It's obvious that even if he was tall, he's still taller than a his tall, female counterpart. Both my parents and I paid for our wedding. Nope, my husband didn't had to spend a dime on the wedding, nor our honeymoon nor even his wedding clothes. I made it easier for him. You're right in the fact that neither of us are religious. We're both atheists.
I still conceive easily during our engagement. Our son is now 15 months old. I'm still fertile. As to whether I'm strong... well obviously not like men but do now some Judo (I practiced it a while back) and along with it a couple lifting techniques. If I do warmups again, I would be able to lift (but only using that techniques of rotating my hips) my brother.
Funny well neither of us are that funny. We both don't have a good sense of humor. Keep going.

[Karrimurray]

I think my first reaction would be a mix of shock, heartbreak, and confusion. It wouldn’t just be about the fact that it was a man, it would be about realizing that the person I trusted was hiding a huge part of themselves from me. I’d probably have a million questions running through my mind: ‘How long has this been happening? Was our relationship real? Did I ever truly know this person?’

I wouldn’t want to react out of anger in that moment because there are emotions and possibly personal struggles involved, but I also wouldn’t ignore my own feelings. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and finding out something like that would completely change how I see the situation.

[TonyMetal___1986]

Everything was normal to me and speaking about cheating until i re-read the question and noticed that a husband is sleeping with another man, it means he's gay or bisexual!

It's disgusting and abnormal, not only she should divorce him, but spit in his face and tell him what a scum he is!

I will never ever in my whole life understand how people from the samw gender are able to love each other romantically and have dirty sex together, reading the homosexual is an instant turn off for me, i don't knkw how these people coexists!

[Vesuvius87]

I don't even need to understand how love among people of the same gender works. Nothing changes that infidelity still took place and they broke their public marital vow and made a mockery out of a signed, legal contract.

[TonyMetal___1986]

@Vesuvius87 i agree about the infidelity part, yes!
but my problem with homosexuals is bigger than that!

Actually, to me what matters more is the sacred part of the marriage, the vows that we make in front of god cause idc so much about legal contracts!

Miss Vesuvius don't you have a question today about spanking the kids or you're out 🤣🤣

[Vesuvius87]

I tend to participate on various topics, not just on my repulsion and absolute (deep) hatred towards spanking kids. My husband and I actually had a non-religious marriage but still made those vows in front of friends and family. That counts too. Our wedding (took place in a city hall and then we all transferred upstair on the 12th floor of my building) was just as beautiful and sacred.

[TonyMetal___1986]

@Vesuvius87 happy to know that you had a beautiful marriage but to me the blessing of god is a must...

The vows are made by you both but instead of only sharing them with family and friends, you'll both swear in front of god to fullfill them, plus in a sacred marriage, there are rules for a marriage, you must follow god's teachings about it!

Anyway, what matter is that you both love and care about each other forever...

[Vesuvius87]

Even though my husband and I aren't really affiliated with a deity or religion, I still appreciate your reply. I do agree with that very last sentence, love and care is all that matters. Those 3 together make up loyalty. Together we'll continue raising our son with a caring, loving and peaceful upbringing.

[TonyMetal___1986]

@Vesuvius87 for sure 🙂👍🏻

[OlderAndWiser]

My wife is the last person on the planet who I would ever suspect of being unfaithful, so I might have a heart attack from the shock of finding her with someone else.

How do you respond when confronted with such an emotionally laden situation? You can guess forever but you will never really know until you actually face those circumstances.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship drama and turn it into clarity, with a little sass and zero sugarcoating 💋

Catching your husband in bed with a man isn’t just cheating, it shatters your sense of reality and compatibility. I’d emotionally detach, protect my self‑respect, get the full truth, then lawyer up. That’s a deal‑breaker, not a cute “let’s work on communication” moment.

[AviatorTom]

That would never happen.

If my wife caught two men in our bed, neither of them would be me.

[midnightmoon05]

Oh boy…. I cannot imagine. The plot is getting thick. who will explain that?

[BadApple69]

I’m with you tom…. BUT NOT IN BED!! I didn’t mean I was with you like that. Only with your opinion.
Sorry if this offends but a hairy man ass can’t compare to the soft bits of a lady.

[Mark_Est]

Sounds more like you are dodging accountability.


Are you also funny, charismatic, skilled, smart, strong, rich and tall like the men that you want?


Hypocrisy much?


Its almost like men and women have different jobs/task. Women offer fertility and sexual purity. Men provide and protect. That is the trade.


So again, really, if you aren't traditional yourself, you can't really expect him to be.

[thegreenyogi]

I would still see it as a betrayal especially considering if it wasn't an open relationship so yes it would be the end of the marriage for me.

[midnightmoon05]

That will never happened 😂 I know him too well.

[Iron_Man]

The woman should file for an instant divorce and cut him off instantly but first find out why did he do this and why didn’t he tell the wife that you’re that kind of a person. I don’t care how much money he has you cannot allow that in your life. Basically that’s betrayal. hopefully you don’t have kids with him. And you should go after alimony, but just stay away from him and start over.

[Nikki1989]

If it were my husband, I would be completely floored.

There is no ying in his yang! Zero.

[Agape93]

Might be some Wang in his yin though

[BobbieBoy666]

An all three threesome with a penis suck fest going on.

With kissing and this is with saliva swapping back and forth.

Male bonding.

[Kvass]

I’d just shut down and stare at him like🧍‍♀️

[Agape93]

Long as I agreed to this beforehand, he's going to have a serious problem, and they both better be clean, or it'll be a fatal one for everyone.

[TonyMetal___1986]

Turn them to frogs miss agape, wait no!
Since they are fags, turn them in dirty cockroaches! 🦗

[Agape93]

Watch it.

[TonyMetal___1986]

I'd like to 😁

[Agape93]

Youd like to watch gay men in bed? I knew it

[TonyMetal___1986]

Hell no! Surely you know it too, but you just wanna provoke me since it seems you're in a good mood now and bored 🤣

I said i'd like watching you turning them into sewers cockroaches 🤓

[Agape93]

I think you'd like it.

[TonyMetal___1986]

Send me someone to see if i'll like it but before sending him to me, let him write you his will 😏

[Agape93]

https://youtu.be/Qpw6te14ZZg?is=bDoxx4zx5Wh_xkhD

Enjoy

[TonyMetal___1986]

Disgusting, stopped watching it since these queers appeared, this stupid boy needs to be slapped with a belt, he looks dork with an I. Q of 20 🤦🏻‍♂️

[Agape93]

So you like seeing men get belted huh?

[TonyMetal___1986]

Men and women, i discipline both 😌

[TonyMetal___1986]

Not for fun at all, it's about teaching them morals and values, also respect...

[Agape93]

So you're a teaching Dom, for men and women. That's sweet. I used to dom a brat before, that was fun

[TonyMetal___1986]

A simple teacher, not a dom, i don't force my ideology on anyone but i like to help others finding the right path in their lives...

Brat, doms and you witch needs a special category on a porn site, you're a naughty girl miss agape 😂

[Agape93]

Ah a "teacher" of men and women... I bet you like opening them up to possibilities

[TonyMetal___1986]

Right, not everyone has to be the same, plus not all laws are fair, sometimes you have to rebel against the ones which makes you oppressed, plus people cannot demand for respect if they don't respect you in the first place... etc

[zagor]

That happened to the mother of a guy I used to work with, though they weren't married, just dating. She went over to his house and found him doing the nasty with another guy. She broke up with him and he came over to her place and beat the hell out of her.

She called the cops; he was a high-ranking police officer and the cops told her he outranked them and there was nothing they could do - they told her to get a gun and make sure he was in her house before using it.

[MrChinaski]

If my partner beds someone else I am happy for them.

[Anonymous]

My wife caught me cheating and decided to join in. Dream come true you might think but the other girl freaked and a naked fight started.

[loveyouoak]

I wouldn't do anything. I'd rather catch my husband in bed with a man than with a woman. But I don't want a bisexual husband. He should be heterosexual, just like me.

[Anonymous]

I am not married or ever had a relationship.
But I would break the relationship then. That's the life

[i_am_back]

Its mean you're not gpod enough for him
Get divorced bro...

[MasterKS]

The first she will check is he giving or recieveing? LOL

[robocop666]

divorce and take pics to show on the internet

[elizamichale1]

I won't be able to be with him anymore

[MemeSupreme]

only appropriate reaction is violence

[ellllltr]

I’d would want a divorce.

[ellllltr]

I’d want a divorce.

[sage2021]

I'm sure that I would have to vomit! 🤮

[Anonymous]

Guys do this often, especially if they just get oral. They still think theyre "straight" LMAO

[Kelly6]

@EmmaMary Divorce

[wkhan_87]

I saw first nonsense question from you

[Drumlin2001]

Cheating is cheating. It's hard to come back from

[_Jenny_]

@EmmaMary Divorce!

[_Jenny_]

@EmmaMary cut off his balls

[Markella83]

Um I answered this might be a hate crime.

[iCandice]

Join in probloly.