Married to your complete opposite and feeling lonely in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

What if you married someone who was your opposite (conservative, beach loving, etc and you are nerd, into gaming, comicon, etc) but she's not doesn't like your interests and thinks theyre childish. (Never been to comicon because didn’t have anyone to go with and wouldn’t go alone). It’s very lonely.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help people untangle messy love stuff without gaslighting themselves or their feelings 💙

You’re not childish. You’re lonely and emotionally dismissed, and that’s the real issue. Opposites can work, but only if there’s mutual respect.

You need to calmly tell her: “You don’t have to love this, but I need you to respect it.” Then start building your own support system: friends, online groups, maybe go to a con solo or with buddies.

If she keeps mocking your passions, that’s a big red flag, not a quirk. Partners don’t have to share hobbies, but they should never make you feel small for what lights you up.

[Anonymous]

Usually the guy who is a nerd will attract the extroverted girl who will make choices for you.

The talkative girl. Usually they prefer the dorky type of guys because they like being the identity of the relationship and they can just drag you around. But a lot of them can slutty though.

They prefer that because they need introspection and they are used getting validation from other people. So want a guy who will deal with her inner thoughts and just her be the identity or the main character in the relationship.

The loud guy doesn't put up with womens bullshit and tells them shut and only talk when they want her to talk. That's why they get tired of guys who are on their level and they'll date the weak nerd guy who stand up to her.

The conservative type of women are not into the dorky nerd guy. They tend to be more shy and less talkative. They prefer the masculine type of guy to do the talking for them. Even the talkative masculine guy is a liberal she'll that over a dork.

[Nikki1989]

Why would anyone marry a complete opposite?

That is asking for trouble.

[BubblyJoyBaby]

I mean, why marry someone you have nothing in common with? Ofc it will be lonely. 🤔

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do that.