Uncomfortable around couples and you're single?

[Anonymous]

OK so I have been working on myself and weeding out the jerks, idiots and the "nothing in commons". I'm not that picky, really, I'm not a bad looking girl educated no drama... but no nibbles. However I am really uncomfortable around couples, I don't like to be around people who are "mushy", its not a jealousy its just when is it my turn? How come I don't get the nice guys and the women with the drama get all the good ones.. does anyone else feel like they are broken and waste of oxygen?

[HidingMyHeart]

I do, it's a couple world and in my college residence, last semester was so easy because my friends and I (my one roommate, and 4 guys alongside a few extra girls) would all hangout all the time, every weekend. My roommate was already dating one of the guys and I was there the day we all met and I'm still here watching their relationship go even further, she confides in me about everything that goes on with them. This semester, things are weird, one of the guys broke up with his girlfriend from home and so another friend of ours likes him, one of them was completely rejected by a girl he was 'head over heels' for so he's kind of acting desperate for a girl right now and so another girl is liking him as well, and it seems that all of my friends here are getting into relationships now... except me...last semester one of the guys and I had always hit it off, we'd hang out and text for hours, until he told me he liked me two days before I was leaving to go home (17hours away for Christmas break) He was the only friend at college I stayed in contact with while I was home and he begged me for my answer back. Finally I told him that I cared about him back, but he said he didn't want to get into a relationship because he was too emotionally unstable right now, but he still wanted me to spend more time with him when we both came back to school. a few days before it was time to come back I noticed he wasn't responding to me as much (he used to ALWAYS initiate the conversations) and they just lessened and finally stopped. He went cold on me even though I still see him on some weekends. Now while all of my friends are conveniently flirting it up with each other, I'm left heartbroken because of this stupid guy who messed with my head :(

and its hard hearing about my roommates relationship 24/7 too, but what can I do? I'm just lonely

sorry for my long storyy...just needed to vent it out

[Beautee]

You can't really be intimidated by those couples. Its just a public way of displaying their affection for each other, but you never know what goes behind the scenes. Do not assume that those people are having perfect relationships. Personally, it only bothers me when it is fake, but when I see cute couples holding each other - it makes me smile. Don't let negative feelings overwhelm you - either ignore those people, or try to be happy for them. I am sure very soon you will be in their shoes.

Also, in your age category you already know what you want. You don;t need to waste time and 'shop around'. It makes things easier, but it also eliminates many options. Maybe you can change your attitude towards dating and give guys a chance. You never know what good can come out of it till you try.

[Dancer18]

I feel the same way. But, I tell myself that I will find him someday, that one perfect guy that I hadn't found yet. Be patient and you will meet him sooner than you think. Love being single, embrase it! Be more open and your night in shining armor will rescue you :)

[Whistling_Dixie]

You know, at my age, most people I know are in some kind of relationships. For the most part, when I recall the ones that I know well enough to be able to witness their life with their significant others, really doesn't make me wish that I am one of them. In fact, I am glad that I am not in their shoes. These are the jerks and idiots that you are talking about. They need love too! Except they make their partners' life living hell. Out of so many, maybe, there is only one couple that I think has a reasonably sane and happy relationship.