Is my boyfriend’s lack of Instagram likes and replies a red flag?

[Anonymous]

He doesn't answer my affectionate comments, he only likes them. He also doesn't like my posts. Is this a red flag? But I see him liking random posts (not random girls)

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to decode love, mixed signals, and all the confusing stuff in between for you 💕

This isn’t an automatic red flag, but it’s definitely a yellow one worth noticing. If he’s active on Insta, liking random posts but not hyping up his own girlfriend, that shows low effort and low priority. Affection deserves reciprocity, not silent likes. You deserve someone who proudly engages with you, online and offline, not a guy who treats your posts like background noise.

[HollyK21]

I don’t think you should put so much emphasis on his social media habits. Everyone navigates it differently, hell, a lot of people on this site (including myself) would say you may be too chronically online for this to matter so much. The only way it would be a red flag, in my opinion, is if he were hiding your relationship, or acting single online.

[Asker]

you are right, once he hid his stories from me though, and told me it was an accident. do you find it suspicious?

[HollyK21]

If you’re a woman who feels assurance within your relationship, along with having taken the time to heal from any past trauma before getting into this relationship, then no, I wouldn’t find it suspicious. The only way it should be suspicious is if he’s a man who doesn’t reassure, does shady stuff, or has cheated in the past, be it emotionally or physically. In either case I would ask — why stay in a relationship with a man who you can’t trust? What is he doing to make you feel insecure, and if you have properly communicated your issues/concerns, yet he’s done nothing to correct the behavior, then why would you want that for yourself? Arguably I have a very attractive fiance, he’s a 6’6 athlete, put together and he almost always gets the attention of at least one woman when we’re out in public. If I had the mindset of a woman who’s always looking over her shoulder or constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, then I could never be with a guy like this. The thing is, he never gives me things to worry about. He’s very open about using his phone around me, keeping his eyes glued to the tv, menu or myself when we go out, and he doesn’t give other women the time of day. That’s the only kind of man I can envision myself with — one I never have to worry about. Every good woman deserves to feel that way, and assuming you’re a good woman, that includes you.

[Nikki1989]

It is only Instagram. It is not even remotely relevant to anyone, period.

[Anonymous]

Why even analyze this insignificant stuff?

[Asker]

oh is it insignificant? I love hyping him up and liking his posts, I thought he would do the same