Think I put too much pressure on a girl, what to do now?

[Anonymous]

Things were going well but then it she started backing away. I tried talking to her about things but did she didn't really seem like she wanted to talk...short, incomplete answers. I told her I'd give her space and haven't spoken to her for 3 weeks. I'd like to eventually try again, but I'm at the point where I'm not sure to wait for her to contact me or for me to contact her with something simple in another few weeks.

[Photogal48]

I think that the best thing for you to do now is to give her a little more time. I don't know how exactly you 'pressured' her, but if it was in a bad way, then wait for her to talk to you. If you don't think it was too bad, then wait another week or two, then tey talking to her. Hope I helped some, good luck. :)

[Asker]

Thanks. The pressure was more for a relationship; things were going well for awhile, but then when it started looking like a real relationship she pulled back a little and I tried talking to her but it just seemed to make it worse. Not sure how much that changes things as far as waiting for her or just me contacting her.

[Photogal48]

Okay, yeah definitely give her some space to breathe, but be sure to let her know that you are still there. I would say to talk to her and tell her that you are sorry that you pushed her a little too far, and that you still would really like to be friends with her. that you don't have to be 'in a relationship' right away. I myself have been in her shoes, with a guy pushing for things to go father, and it makes us girls feel scared and we back away. We don't want to feel like the guy is forcing

[Photogal48]

... us into a reationship, it should just happen, you know? Good luck with everything. :)

[Asker]

I see what you mean...I've wanted to tell her something like that - I'm not really looking for anything serious right now, but I definitely enjoy talking and hanging out together. The only reason I've held back from saying sorry plus that is that I'd worry about it making her more uncomfortable. It's already been 3 weeks and we haven't spoken, and I've thought maybe I waited too long to tell her. It may be best that the next time I talk to her, I just keep it light. What you think?

[Photogal48]

Well I think that you should definitely apologize, and just tell her that you really hope that you two can still be friends. Then who knows, maybe one day it will turn into something more when you are both ready.

[Rapuzzled]

Do not contact her at all. Unfortunately, she may want more than "space." That may have been used as an "out" for her. If she wants to talk to you, she will contact you.

[hakuna_matata]

ok and why has all this happened?

[Asker]

Check out my other comment below...

Basically it started looking like things were headed for a relationship, I lead on too soon that I wanted one & I think she started feeling a bit smothered so she backed away. I then tried talking to her but didn't get complete answers, and so I told her I'd give space.

[hakuna_matata]

ohk.. ya of course you shud stay away. you can't force someone to be serious about u. and if she wanted you she would have called u...thats for sure

[Asker]

So would it be best to let her be the first to contact me, or should I try contacting her again in like a month? We've been friends for a few years before this but recently things started to develop between us; that is til she started backing off.

[kheserthorpe]

Move on.