You are not in sales and don't do a sales pitch to try to convince a potential customer that your product is better than the one from the competitors.
If after the 3rd. date, she feels that there is no chemistry to warrant a long term relationship, then you should have accepted it and not tried to give the impression that you needed to justify your approach and correct it to suit her. That is bad analysis of a person's feelings.
Of course, I understand that you wanted this relationship to work and that you have realized that your approach was not ideal. Fact is that you failed to impress that lady after 3 dates. You should accept her decision and move on. Nobody speaks of being an a*****e but just about the chemistry was more a one-sided affair rather than a bilateral one.
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When it comes to that in my opinion it truly wasn’t needy or pushy. Y’all both felt the same way. But, for you to say you’ll like to continue being friends that was so sweet. Nothing wrong w/ asking someone that especially after finding out there is no spark. DO NOT feel bad. Every one & I mean every one messes up. Learn from it & continue to date till you find your person.
No one can get into her head. You felt the dates went well but something in her head was a turn-off. It's my opinion the only thing you did wrong was something on that third date. She was will to go twice and even the third time.
On your part, if you thought the dates went well but she felt no romantic chemistry then wanting to be friends wasn't bad thing to ask.
Girls have reasons that men struggle to see sometimes. This is one of those times perhaps, but if it was me I would think about the conversations on that third date or did you do something wrong... I believe something shut her down hard. Give it some thought.
Tbh, no. I think you were fine.
Also, ignore the one misandrist that's twisting everything to make you out to be the bad one.
In reality, No one was really in the bong here. You both tried to pursue a relationship, and when that didn't work out, you tried to pursue a friendship, and she wasn't interested.
Thats okay.
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She's a good decent respectable girl looking for a meaningful relationship
You're looking for a cheap easy sex tramp as "friends with benefits".
It's not hard to comprehend why she's not interested and why you're not attractive to her in any way, shape or form.
I probably would have taken the first hint, but I’m really good at self sabotage. I don’t see anything wrong with getting full clarification to be on the same page, especially after 3 dates. Good on her for being direct too. It would make dating so much simpler if people were straightforward.
You need to be certain of your worth. If a woman said she wasn't feeling it then her loss, goodbye. No begging, no pleading, no nothing. Once you know your worth, this naturally builds some level of attraction, and the rest comes from your personality, words, actions and the fact that you are not being a friend. Thus on the dates, if you kept things as a friendly conversation, or like an interview or played it safe hiding your desires or attraction then that is how she will see you.
Friends or not if it aligned you both would have felt it. You asking to give it one last shot after explaining how you felt was not too far, so long as you don’t push any further.
Its fine, at least she was honest about it instead of leading you on. I rather someone reject me right there from start instead of wasting of time for a whim
It just seems like you guys didn’t have that chemistry & that’s okay! Move forward & find someone you do have that chemistry with. How old are you?
We learn from mistakes, we have all say stuff we end up regretting at some point, if you have the chance or opportunity to fix the mistake then do it, no need to beat yourself up over it
You should’ve respected her decision not to go out with you again, but everybody else is also right in saying don’t stress about it, just move on and don’t contact her again.
I know what you mean but it looks like her no was pretty clear
She clearly wants to sleep with you… Not! Give your head a shake and leave her alone. Not respecting her wishes now is being the asshole.
The third time? Bro, if you didn't have a decent kiss session that went on for a handful of minutes on the first date - walk away. Church is on Sundays.
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