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He says I talk down to him or talk to him like a child?

Been dating a guy for the last 3 months, we are around the same age, late 30s. Give you a brief insight to him and me.

Him - no kids, never married, one long term relationship with a much younger person, is a manager for a company he has worked at for 20 years, earns more than a decent age, studied at nightschool to get some qualifications.

Me - kids, been married and divorced, three long term relationships, work part-time or freelance, went to college and also studied at home to get account qualifications, studying for a degree at the mo.

He has stated that he feels I talk to him like a child or when I explain something to him it makes him feel stupid because I explain in a really simple way. He has also said I talk down to him.

This does come to as a surprise to me, as I am a really nice person and would never intentionally hurt someones feelings. I have 3 teenagers but I do know I don't talk to him like I would talk to them. I guess my explaining technique is just how I explain things and I would do this to everyone.

He has commented on how nice a person I am and how well spoken I am, reckons I am very elegant and dignified but then says I talk down to him and treat him like a child.

Would you say this is more to do with him?

At the moment when we disagree on anything, he has a horrible habit of commenting on the way I'm speaking to him.

I do know at times I can be quite harsh and he knows that and it is only on rare occasions that will happen.
He says I talk down to him or talk to him like a child?
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