about a month ago, my boyfriend and I were sorting out our issues. we had had a big fight and I felt like I didn't know what to do anymore because I was always willing to do things and he was currently tied down. I thought he wasn't being genuine. he said I was taking things the wrong way and needed to calm down. he said he was going to be very busy the next two weeks with exams and working, that we should just take it easy and wait after I come home to get things going, and just be patient and understanding of our situation. he'd asked me to stop yelling at him, that he'd been yelled at his entire life, and it is unproductive to him. I agreed, and I settled down, and apologized for my actions. since we were long distance at the time, most disagreements were misread and misinterpreted. I'd asked for more communication and face time, and he said he'd give it to me. before we parted, he wished me luck on my exams and said he'd see me soon and to smile.
for whatever reason, I got mad and thought our discussion wasn't enough, and had a little minor scuffle with him to be sure we were on the same page, and he reassured me.
the next two weeks, we didn't speak much at all.i was going to use that time to calm down and show him I'm not crazy and I won't over analyze anymore. he'd text me just once about making his pro team and I said great. I sent him something sweet to him a few days later. the next week, I started to go back to over analyzing... we didn't speak all of exam week, and I wanted to see if he was okay, so I texted him and asked what was up, he said he was fine, just working on exams. I told him I was coming into town our 6 months, and he said he was working, so I didn't respond, feeling rejected.
in the morning, he said 'happy 6 months :D' and at this point, I was mad again because we didn't talk (why?) and said 'when you're ready to talk, lemme know' he said 'is something wrong?' 'i was going to ask you lol' 'I'm fine' and nothing else the rest of the day.
the next day, I felt like he was string me along, and all of these thoughts in my head. I couldn't take it anymore. I called and told him it wasn't working for me, I was taking down the relationship status, I didn't like the way we were treating each other (even though he treated me VERY well), and wanted to try again, but right now it isn't right. he said he was barely getting any sleep, he was working overdrive and wasn't feeling well, he was just busy. and I said I understood, it's just that 2 weeks is too long. he just said "whatever makes you happy" and two hours later, he deleted me from everything. I tried calling him a few days later, apologizing and say I made a mistake, but he did not answer or pick up. I've tried twice to call him, no answer. he went on our camping trip alone. he won't come anywhere near me or speak to me.
what the hell have I done? is there anyway I can explain this behavior to him and apologize? I hadn't recognized my behavior until now, and I see... I WAS the problem. am I right?
for whatever reason, I got mad and thought our discussion wasn't enough, and had a little minor scuffle with him to be sure we were on the same page, and he reassured me.
the next two weeks, we didn't speak much at all.i was going to use that time to calm down and show him I'm not crazy and I won't over analyze anymore. he'd text me just once about making his pro team and I said great. I sent him something sweet to him a few days later. the next week, I started to go back to over analyzing... we didn't speak all of exam week, and I wanted to see if he was okay, so I texted him and asked what was up, he said he was fine, just working on exams. I told him I was coming into town our 6 months, and he said he was working, so I didn't respond, feeling rejected.
in the morning, he said 'happy 6 months :D' and at this point, I was mad again because we didn't talk (why?) and said 'when you're ready to talk, lemme know' he said 'is something wrong?' 'i was going to ask you lol' 'I'm fine' and nothing else the rest of the day.
the next day, I felt like he was string me along, and all of these thoughts in my head. I couldn't take it anymore. I called and told him it wasn't working for me, I was taking down the relationship status, I didn't like the way we were treating each other (even though he treated me VERY well), and wanted to try again, but right now it isn't right. he said he was barely getting any sleep, he was working overdrive and wasn't feeling well, he was just busy. and I said I understood, it's just that 2 weeks is too long. he just said "whatever makes you happy" and two hours later, he deleted me from everything. I tried calling him a few days later, apologizing and say I made a mistake, but he did not answer or pick up. I've tried twice to call him, no answer. he went on our camping trip alone. he won't come anywhere near me or speak to me.
what the hell have I done? is there anyway I can explain this behavior to him and apologize? I hadn't recognized my behavior until now, and I see... I WAS the problem. am I right?
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