Fighting With My Boyfriend's Sister.. Whose Side He Should Take?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and i are in our late e20's... we've talked about having kids... getting married... the whole 9.. the problem is his 19 year old sister who thinks she's the queen of England.. she's a drama queen & her & i constantly duke it out.. who's side is he supposed to take.. his future wife or his little sister... I'm about ready to leave him because i think we're too grown for his sisters bad attitude & behavior.. i don't wish to fight with her & the only time i say anything is when she keeps on going and going... help! leave him for being protecting his sister and not protecting me... or just keep dealing with it & stay?

[Frostie]

Look, don't make someone choose between you and their family. If you even consider marriage, you have to know what it means. You're becoming apart of HIS family. not vice versa. If you two can't get along, then you need to sort your sh*t out. Making your boyfriend who apparently you 'care' about, choose between two people he loves, is very cruel. Yeah she is young, maybe she is a bitch,maybe she is stupid or maybe more, but was there a time you did something stupid, or something that isn't considered perfect? If you expect him to choose you over his blood, then you're asking to get kicked to the curb. It is a bad move if you truly love this guy.If I were him, I wouldn't choose. But if they forced me to, I'd choose my bloodkin.

[Asker]

Thank You :)) Your Very Right In All That Your Saying.. But Maybe I Should Have said Things Differently... I Don't Think He Needs To Chose Me Or Her... But I Believe He Needs To Put Her In Her Place Because I don't Start The Problems And I Try Not To React To Her Stupidity... But When I'm Continually Pushed... I Will And Then I Am The One In The Wrong & That's Not Fair At All... Ya Feel Me?

[Camilus]

The diplomatic side. Unless his sister is just cock-blocking him, then he should curse her out and tell her to shut up...at least that's what I would do.

Cock-blocking in this situation = she just felt like starting a needless argument with you because she just feels like being a catty woman, to the point that it will make you leave or fight with the guy and puts the relationship at risk.

[Asker]

Thank You, That's Exactly What I Feel Like Is Happening Here... And He Encourages To Keep Happening Because She Is The Baby Of The Family...