When a guy says he needs time because he needs to heal, does he still love you?

[Anonymous]

I have been crying for the past week like I've never cried before. Last year, right after me and my boyfriend broke up, a month later I went to vegas and kissed a guy. It hurt him so bad because eventhough we werent together, he says that we were still talking and we did see each other here and there. He still fought for 3 months to win me back but at that time I felt like things werent working out because I kept struggling with depression. In that process, with the whole vegas thing, he got hurt from me constantly rejecting him... I realized I truly loved him earlier this year but he said he was still hurt, but a few weeks later he realized he missed me and we got back together. Then just last week he got mad about me messaging a guy friend on Facebook and said he needs space for a month. I've apologized and cried and went to his house, only for him to tell me he's still so hurt from what happened before and really needs time to heal... He said he doesmt feel the same way about me... Does he mean he lost his love for me completely? He doesn't text or call me back at all... But he did this last time to me to only come back and realize he missed me after three weeks... Why do guys do this? It takes guys complete space to realize they miss you? Please help

[Hckychef]

when you kissed the other guy in vegas, it made it seem like you have moved on. With you constantly rejecting him, that just cemented the idea in his head. Then all of a sudden you changed your mind and now you want him back. Of course he's not going to trust you. Why should he? I don't know what your Facebook comment was, if it was taken out of context or completely platonic, but it probably brought back the memories of you rejecting him and seeming like you are "looking" around for someone else.

Did he completely lose his love for you...I don't think so, but its prob not as strong as before. If he says he needs space, he's not going to text you or call you. And yes, some of the time it does take complete space to make us realize we miss you.

[Asker]

The Facebook message was a co worker congratulating me on my new job, it seemed like he overreacted so much? But, do you think I should be more understanding of why he got so mad? He did say it brought back some flashes and that he can't really trust me. It seems that everyone says, when a guy requests space, a girl needs to respect it..the more you try to cling to him, he'll push away even further. Do you agree? When I went to his house to try and get him back, he was nice but now he ignoresme

[Hckychef]

I def agree. if a guy says he needs space, and you try to cling to him, the more he is likely to push you away. As for your Facebook message, he might have over-reacted, but considering the past you two share, I can see where he is coming from.

For now, I'd just give him some space, let him work things out in his life, and if its meant to be, he'll come back.

[AskChloe]

He probably already figures that you have moved on in your life by kissing another guy in Vegas & constantly rejecting him when he was the one trying to work things out with you. Even though you may feel like as if you're ready to be back with him you have to understand what makes a relationship work out in the end is the effort of two people not just one. It sounds like he's already moved on & accepted how things are between the two of you.