Boyfriend says he needs time?

[Anonymous]

He said he needs time alone being misarable

No joke. He wants be left alone to feel misarable or while feeling miserable

What do i do?

Its like he is in some hole and he gets deeper and deeper in it and he enjoys it or smth

I dont get it

Is it even normal?

[NamerOfStars]

Sounds like he's got some stuff going on, and wants to be alone to process it. Ask him if he's sure that's what he wants; he'll probably say yes. Now, everyone needs some time alone from time to time, so that's okay in itself, but ask him how long he needs. He'll likely not know, so ask him to set a point in the future where you'll meet up again and go out to do something- it needn't be big, but it should be something you do together. Make it clear that this is important; it's not a "this is the day you'll be normal again by" thing, but a "we need to keep in touch and reinforce our connection" one.

Make that appointment with him, and hold him to it- the state of being mentally pinned down isn't usually something that pops up overnight, and clearing it isn't either, so realize he may not be all the way back to his usual self, but progress is progress. When you meet up, bake some cookies and bring them to him, or something like that- something to remind him that the world has its positives, too, and that you care for him.

[Asker]

Yesterday he sent a message and said we need to sit and talk and that his head is "full to the top"
Today i aksed normal question in order to be a le tobolan my damn weekend
So i asked if he can meet tomorro around 1
He sent a one minute rant: i need time i need space please i vant now i told ill call you when we meet i need some time and space maybe tomorro maybe Sunday

I was like..."ok"
Thats all our interaction during whole day
Now i sit here waiting

[Asker]

Yesterday i sent message saying i think about him everyday and i invited him to family finner on Sunday
He just said thanks.
Then said we need to sit down and talk on weekend
And well
What he answered to me regarding weekend i just explained to you

[mayurr]

You can dump him only if somehow u come to know that he is cheating.
Otherwise leave him alone for sometime. Maybe he is worried or depressed or need some time before any big decision.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'd dump him. What could he be going through that you can't help him through

[Jamie05rhs]

@Bklynbadboy12 What the hell? Everyone nowadays says men should handle their own shit and it's not their girlfriend's job to help them through it.
(And women shame men who want this is a relationship.)
So how can you really blame him for thinking he has to go it alone?

[Bklynbadboy12]

@Jamie05rhs You know what your not getting in a relationship it's not just about you. Nobody has time for games either you in the relationship or you not and what wrong with you partner helping you in a relationship you lean on each other that's what it all about

[Jamie05rhs]

@Bklynbadboy12 I agree with you.

[Asker]

He was a huge mess
We made peace but i have my eyes wide open with him after what he did

[Jamie05rhs]

What did he do?

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs sm9ne crack with his ex in his house for 2 days
Ignoring me and she actually slept on his bed... on the bed sheets I bought
He said sorry
He said he fucked up

[Asker]

He said he wants me
In his life

[Jamie05rhs]

Wowwww

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs yeah
Im tired

[Jamie05rhs]

I understand. I'd be tired of his shit as well.

[ashish804]

leave him for some time and give hum space

[Asker]

Thats what i do
Yesyerday he said we should meet and yalk on weekend
And i sent him a message asking if he has time to meet tomorro
He seny me nearly a minute voice saying
:please i need time i told i need space i dont know when we meet or tomorrow or dunday i need space pls i need some time i can't now...
I was like:"ok"
It wasn't necessary to go nearly a minute talk i knew that i just a s a normal person wanted to know to fucking plan my weekend
Now i cannot plan anything and will sit waiting when this princess decides its good time to meet
When it was his idea to begin with to talk, because he said "we need to sit and talk"

[NibirX]

NORMAAAALL, GIVE HIM TIME

[In_Trance]

Give him time

[Asker]

I did