No, not all relationships reach a plateau. I can say so on the authority of my own experience. I can also say they hit some really rough ground sometimes, and those patches that won't be fixed by just "talking about it", well, it can take a couple of years to pull through. I find it interesting you are considering marriage, because your current situation, while not permanent (school will end for you someday, right?) - is a nice taste of the types of difficulties you can find yourselves in.
The good news is if you two do pull through for some reason, you both will not be wanting to repeat the negative experience, and may coordinate your life plans and stress levels with more care.
There are things you can do to improve the quality and the rate of change of your relationship in the interim. It can take quite a bit of dissection. I did mention "talking about it" -- think of it more as a painkiller than a cure, but there are things that can be done to relax and reduce stress, warm up the bedroom and such.
Financial hardship is a great strain too, especially if you both are accustomed to going out. A cheap substitute may be to take a video cable and attach your computer to your TV, and stream some video with the computer set to fullscreen, and watch it on the TV. Cuddle up on the couch with some instant noodles... and ... well, it's not exactly a nice restraunt but maybe you both can bring back the dating feeling without the monster pricetag.
Conflicting schedules are not as easy to fix. Class scheduling and mandatory work hours have a little wiggle room (pleading with the boss, stacking class times, etc..) but at the end of the day it will only go so far. Just do your best and hope for the best.
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Yep! Next thing you know, one of you cheats on the other.
for everyone money (or the lack of it) is a dominant factor controlling our daily lives and there is
no escape from this fact. I'm sure your boyfriends situation is common everywhere these days with couples struggling to make ends meet financially and enjoy life with the energy they have left. its tough not only for younger people but also for older people who have put in many years
of hard work and effort. when we were born nobody said 'your life will be easy every day and you will be constantly happy' if only ! all relationships face problems and challenges and we have to be positive and deal with them as best we can. if you love him stick with him and good luck to you both !
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