How do I get him to stop touching too much?

[Anonymous]

so I've been going out with a guy for a few months. he's really nice and sweet but there's a tiny problem. when we kiss or makeout his hands are ALL over me >< he said he'll try to slow down many times but its all for nothing. its like he can't control himself. his hands go down my pants and in my shirt mostly and its just pissing me off now. sometimes when it gets too far I tap him on the shoulder or something and he stops immediately. but then he tries again later! can anyone tell me why he does this and how do I get him to stop?

[Ubetiburn]

It is a mix between his wanting to further with you by wearing you down. It also indicates that he has been in the situation and knows that by 'peer pressuring' you he is more likely to get what he wants.

With this person as well as any that you are with in any kind of relationship, needs to have thier part of the relationship recognized. Tell them that their boundaries are, say, light petting - that is to say that they can feel you up outside of the clothing. Digit-sex (being fingered), oral sex, and sex-sex is out of the question for now.

Slapping is another form of getting your point across after him not listening to you telling him to slow down.

He needs to learn (as well as you do) that when you or anyone for that matter say's no, that you mean no! Not try again in 10 minuets.

Also any person worth their weight in a relationship - would respect your decision.

Good luck and I hoped my answer helps.

[Scoopie]

"would respect your decision"

That's the most important thing, when I genuinely like a girl I also respect her and her opinions/decisions - no matter what.

[Asker]

thanks guys :) you really helped.

[FutterwackenMcSappin]

Why he does that? He just might be that into you. You may very well be the girl of his dreams.

How to get him to stop? Bite him. Don't laugh. Female dogs have to do it when they're not in the mood. So do lionesses. If he tries in public, growl and smack the sh*t out of the back of his hand. If compulsion in him is that strong, then it's going to take something equally intense to train him to behave a certain way.

And when you do it don't smile or grin. He has to take you seriously or it won't work.

[Anonymous]

I had a guy like this. I constantly was having to gently guide his hands away. I think you'll have to be really firm with him to get this across. If he doesn't like it then he wasn't worth it anyways.

[tommy2toneyack]

You live with that body every day you get to look, touch,smell every day as much and as often as you want he on the other hand (no pun intended) only when permitted so the poor guy goes nuts

[Asker]

lol that was actually funny. ha ha but then again its mine and I do whatever the hell it is I want to do with it. and him touching it (too much) is just plain annoying :p

[tommy2toneyack]

dont get me wrong I understand what you are saying give the poor guy a chance tell him he slows down or you tie his ass down

[SilentEarth]

He's getting caught up in the moment like a lot of guys do. If he can't kiss without his hands wandering, you should probably abstain from it for a while. At least the more passionate kissing anyways.

[septimus]

tie his hands. :D