Is it okay that my boyfriend is hanging out with girls that he used to hook up with?

[cutybrittany]

The question is pretty self explanatory but my boyfriend who is in another state is hanging with girls who he used to hook up with. These girls are prettier and I am slightly insecure we have been together for almost four months and he calls me every day always counting down til he sees me...i mean I shouldn't be worried but he hangs with them its different if he was talking on the phone...

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+1 y

So I am going to put it out there that I trust my boyfriend but I am just uncomfortable and I am going to tell him that..

[katiesmuff]

In my experiences when a guy from the past reappears in my life it usually will lead up to somehow his penis ends up inside me! In my case as far as I knew these guys did not have girlfriend, but if they lied I wouldn't have known the difference.

I'd vote for him to stay away from those past hook ups especially with the two of you so far apart at the moment and his other head getting the itch for some warm p*ssy! It's just not the best idea

[calialltheway1993]

I don't think it's a good idea for him to be hanging out with girls he used to hook up with. If anything, he should take you with him.

[acat321]

If you trust him, I wouldn't worry about it. Just talk to him about it if it's really bothering you.

[MRMell]

this is all trust. When you talk to him, tell him how you feel about it, don't be mean or say you don't trust you, just say how it makes you feel, and he'll know that it upsets you and if he likes you, he will stop or say don't worry, I wouldn't mess around with anyone else.. etc.

[cutybrittany]

i mean I do talk to the guys I used to hook up with and my boyfriend is always reassuring its more of an insecurity thing

[Prof_Don]

The key question is...how long was he friends with these girls BEFORE they hooked up?

Imo this is the deciding factor.

[cutybrittany]

they have been friends all of them for more than two years

[Prof_Don]

Then imo telling him to not hang out with his friends for several years imo is asking too much. The key question is...how much do you trust HIM?

I understand that you may not trust THEM...but remember that nothing can happen (except sexual molestation/assault) unless he consents to them.

[cutybrittany]

I trust him just insecure

[Prof_Don]

If you truly trust him...that trust will overcome your insecurity! :)

[cutybrittany]

yeah I think I am getting better

[Prof_Don]

You will slowly get better...just be patient, QA. :)

[bel42]

Personally, I don't think it's OK . He's probably sleeping with them.

[7gnat]

lol I agree that it is not a good thing but he might not be sleeping with all of them-hope you are well bel :)

[Anonymous]

He should respect you and not be hanging out with her or any other girls he banged