Can't take this anymore! Boyfriend refuses to reassure me

[Anonymous]

I feel so frustrated. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and whenever I try to talk to him about his feelings about me or our relationship he gets angry and won't say anything or reassure me when I'm feeling insecure. I know it's my own fault for feeling insecure about the relationship but I wouldn't feel feel insecure if he would ever say anything sweet to me or complimentary.

Anyway, two weekends ago I tried to talk to him about us and said some things I probably shouldn't have..I called him cold etc. Anyway, I apologized a bunch over the next two days and he talked to me like everything was fine. Now, about a week later he's suddenly not talking to me at all. It's been two days and he hasn't texted me. I texted him last night and he just wrote back a little bit and that's it. Didn't ask me how I am or anything. Today he hasn't contacted me but "liked" something I posted on Facebook. What is this!? I'm so frustrated. I don't get it. Why is he my boyfriend if he doesn't want to talk to me?

I tried to control myself before and not talk to him about emotions or the relationship but I couldn't help it. So I blame myself...but I just feel so abandoned and now I'm afraid he's thinking about dumping me. I really love him. I'm afraid he's lost all attraction for me. Whenever he starts ignoring me I freak out and worry that he's going to dump me. I'm not going to contact him though. I already did last night and he barely responded so I'm not doing that again.

Whyyyy do guys do thisssssssssssssssss. He knows I really love him. He's never said "I love you" to me. So I guess he doesn't love me. But I don't understand what the hell is going on. I'm tired of having to apologize for voicing my insecurities about us when he refuses to reassure me.

[Impex]

I sort of did something similar in a past relationship when it came close to the end, (not that I'm saying that's what's going on) and I was cold towards her and not very responsive. I didn't talk to her all that much and did my own thing. For me I did lose attraction to her physically and emotionally at the same time, she became annoying and I didn't want to bother with her problems sa a boyfriend, but I would have just as a friend, does that make sense?

Anyways to go about fixing the situation you need to establish some sort of communication, call him, go see him in person, just anything to form a line of contact because without that you have nothing to go on. Get down to the root of the problem, ask him if what you said has driven him away, or is there something deeper behind his actions. You will find your answer there.

Good Luck

[AnonymouslyConfused]

He probably loves the way you treat him too. But as you said he may not love you as more than a friend. If that's the case, you need to get it out of him sooner than later and move on so you can find someone who does.

[Anonymous]

He's getting love to easily and that makes you taken for granted, love shouldn't be this hard to express and he's making it sure that you don't feel loved , it'll only be regret even if he comes back by requesting or begging. Just leave something that's making you feel less worth. And to keep your value leave without saying a word because that's what is more humiliating and he's doing it to you. If you are important to him he'll be sorry even if it's not his fault so you being so nice means nothing to him. Leave such a hurtful one-sided relationship don't stay there for sake of it, actions speak louder than words and feeling agitated means giving him satisfaction of being better than you. Just leave someone who doesn't care

[Anonymous]

I've been tru the same thing. Do you know why you feel insecure? I was because of my past rship and it haunt my new rship. Anyway, Just calm down and don't over analyse the situation. I know we always think over to the negative side. Guys are not very good at expressing their feelings tru words and my ex doesn't like to text at all and I thought he doesn't care. But he did. Don't create drama, guys don't like that. and don't accuse him of something he is not. I think "liking" something you post on fb did mean something. Else he wouldn't bother, don't you think so? Give him some space for now. Appreciate what you still have

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[AnonymouslyConfused]

You deserve better, this is not healthy at all. You can try some more to get him to talk to you, but if you can't have an emotional conversation ever, then it's not much of a relationship is it?

[Asker]

I feel so sick :[ every time he ignores me like this it makes me really nervous and worried...

[Asker]

I treat him so well, I'd do anything for him. and his exes were really sh*tty to him and always treated him badly and dumped him.