About jealousy. What goes through your mind when you see other men looking at your girl?

[Anonymous]

My first boyfriend was the kind of guy who has no problem getting girls and he was proud to see other men look at me. My second relationship didn't last long enough for me to know if he's the super jealous sort but he was certainly clingy. My third boyfriend was the kind who cannot stand it when other men look at me. We often got into fights over it. I couldn't stand it because it is something I can't control. Now I'm interested in this guy and I asked if he's the crazy jealous sort that couldn't handle it if another man looks at his girl. He apparently thinks quite like my first boyfriend: other men can admire but cannot touch so he'd be proud of it because he's f***ing that. Well, it sounds a little crude when put that way but I get his point. Not boasting but honestly, I do like to be admired and to make my man feel like he's got someone hot on his hand. Guys, what about you? Are you the crazy jealous sort or are you proud to see people admiring your girl? What goes through your mind when you see that?

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+1 y

Thanks everyone for your answers. I know now it's okay for guys to see other men checking out their girl. It was just my last boyfriend who was so insecure.

[nicenthic]

I like other guys checking out my girl. Cos that's what guys naturally do if they see a hot girl. Now, if she reciprocates by giving a guy her number or flirts back, I will stop trusting her. Initially, I will tell her that I don't like what she did. But if it continues to happen, then I will simply play her and consider myself single without letting her know. That is, bang any other hot girl that I can, including her so-called friends. And look out for another girl to date if she's better than the one I have.

Simple as that. No harsh words, no fights.

[Distant]

What goes through my mind? "Ha! She's mine.". I don't care who looks at her as long as she's respectful to me and herself.

[SparklingFirefly]

Haha the way my ex said it "I am completely comfortable with other men hitting on my girl. It's compliment and makes me proud. And hey if he turns her on a little bit, then it's less work for me in the bedroom later".

Lol he's ridiculous but it's funny and true. I mean iot's one thing for guys to be hitting on you. But it's another if you return the flirting.. Then YOU'RE the one being disrespectful to the relationship.

[nicenthic]

that's all well and good. But he IS your EX.

[Anonymous]

But it's nothing to be jealous of when someone startes at me or admires me , my boyfriend is rather proud .

He is jealous when I AM LOOKING at someone

[aMuse]

It's all how she responds. I don't care if people look, they have nothing to do with me. I care how she acts... What goes through my mind depends on how she responds. She's being tested in those situations, and how she reacts to other guys tells a lot about her character.

[Moloch]

I get proud, but jealous when she starts seeking attention from other guys.

[onlyaguy]

That's how I see it. ^

[KingsOfleon88]

I'd be f***ing proud, not jealous.