My boyfriend has love letters from his ex in his wallet. Should I care?

[thatgirlhw]

We have been dating 9months now. Things seemed to be going great then he left his wallet at my house. He has never let me look through it so I have aways been suspicious of his wallets contents. My yorkie found this wallet and took it too my sister. My sister then went through it and came to me showing me: LOVE LETTERS TO AND FROM HIS EX ..

Idk what to do. Help?

[Dragonblood21]

Yea, looking through someone's wallet, whether or not your dog "brought it to you" (which I'm not buying) isn't good. I'd advise your sister to not do that, if I was him, I'd be pissed.

And sometimes you hold on to things like that, just because it's part of your life and you want to dial back into memories of what happened then. It could be something as innocent as just keeping memories. If he still TALKS to her, feelings may still be there, though even if he does talk to her it's not 100% sure those feelings are still there.

[Iamnobody]

Of course you should care. He's carrying them around in his WALLET. RIGHT NOW. AT PRESENT.

[Anonymous]

Well, you obviously don't wanna look bad for snooping. I do it too. Everyone does. If you confront him, he'll be mad for you invading his privacy. But if you just ignore it, maybe the ex isn't actually an ex and they're messing around. Would you rather him be mad or be cheating? I would choose him being mad. Being cheated on isn't fun at all. I'd confront him about it first and probably break up with him because anyone that has things from their ex in something they always use isn't innocent.

[Anonymous]

putting aside your bs story LOL...ehI don't care that it's an invasion of privacy...i know people say that sh*t all the time and I feel like if you got nothing to hide someone should be able to look at your wallet or your phone or whatever and why would you care? ... after 9 months if you find your boyfriends wallet at your house and look through it and see a letter from an ex instead of momentos you two share? then there's a problem imo.

[Anonymous]

I know this an old post but I read it bc I had the same situation I snooped through his drawers at the beginning of our relationship and found it. I was so deeply hurt that if I stood up for myself more, like a healthy individual I would have 💯 confronted him about it even if it cost me the relationship. He also had an old gift he bought for her and had it out in the open I can not begin to tell you the pain it caused me. No man has the right to start a fully committed relationship with a woman when he is still hanging onto memories from the past.

[Anonymous]

How in the hell does a dog know to go through someones wallet and to bring it to your sister. This sounds way too farfetched

Also, that's invasion of privacy. Immediate grounds for dismissal (breaking up)

[Anonymous]

You really should care. It means that he still cares for her.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned.