I dated this girl months ago, for a month or so. We stopped dating because of numerous reasons but mainly because she felt 'no spark'. I even stopped talking to her after the whole "let's be friends" speech. We have grown considerably closer since our then. We're in our mid-late 20s. She and I have occasionally to hold hands, kiss, fool around, etc. in the past month or two. We had a talk about 'us' but she says she is the "turtle" in this race. She doesn't want to be in a relationship. Yet, she says she does have feelings and cares a lot about me. If it's meant to be, it will happen is her way of thinking. Well, we slept together a few weeks back and recently again. She hasn't had a serious relationship in years and hasn't slept with anyone since. Her last relationship ended badly and she admitted to being afraid of getting hurt. She does not want to be in that situation again. I really care for and like this woman. I am not trying to 'pressure' her as she was thinking at one point. I merely am trying to understand why doesn't want to take that next step with me (relationship). As much as she wants to take things slow, I swear at times we act as though we are in a relationship. What will it take for her to jump off the edge and trust me? Even though, she says she does...
Why is she afraid to take the next step?
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