Is this just a FB setting or did he hide my post from his timeline?

[Anonymous]

Ok so a guy I am seeing/dating, not officially my boyfriend but we totally act like a couple, sent me flowers today. I was SUPER excited and took a picture and posted it on my FB wall, tagging him in it. Just said something like "Flowers from XXX, I am cheesing from ear to ear, love you babyy <3" (important to note that we have both said I love you to each other a long time ago, so it shouldn't be a big deal). I then went on his wall to make sure it posted on it, since I did tag him in the post. But it wasn't on his wall at all, and it still isn't now (it's been about 3 hours). Did he hide it from his timeline on purpose? Or could he have a setting so that when people tag him in posts with pictures it doesn't show on his timeline? (is there even a setting like this?) I know that when people tag him in other posts it shows up on his timeline, and I also know he was online when I posted the pic because he showed up as green on chat, so he could have quickly hidden it. If you think he did hide it on purpose from his wall, why would he do that? Our friends all know about us, like no we are not officially a couple, but he claims to be crazy about me and sends me flowers and tells me he loves me all the time, so why would he not want this on his timeline? Is he embarrassed of me or something? :(

[Anonymous]

are the two of you a Facebook official couple? if not, what is the reasoning behind this? you say that he's not your boyfriend so that makes me think that there is some reason he doesn't like labels or anything official or something, and you posting that is almost like coming out as a couple. if you act like a couple in front of your friends, maybe there's family he's hiding it from? you know, how some people are friends with their aunts or whatever on fb.

[Asker]

Basically we are long distance now, so he said he wants to wait till I move back where he lives in a few months to make it FB official. And I know he is not hiding it, cause my friends know about him, his friends do too (and we have some mutual friends). He even once made me talk to his mom on the phone lol. So I don't know what the big deal about a FB pic is... But I guess I have to let it go :/ Thanks for commenting!

[Anonymous]

Id be really embarassed if I were him. That's probably what is up.

[Asker]

Why would you be embarrassed? If you love someone and don't mind that your friends know, what is the big deal that you sent somebody flowers and they posted a pic of them on FB? I see my friends do it all the time. I was just excited about them so I posted a pic on FB. I don't see what the big deal is lol... You think he was like embarrassed that his friends would tease him about it? I just don't get it lol, it's normal to get a girl flowers to me.

[Anonymous]

I think it is a setting. Let me go check.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, it's a setting under timeline and tagging. You can set it to allow only your own posts on your timeline, all friends, or custom groups of friends.

[Opinion Owner]

You can also set it so that you have to review everything your friends tag you in before it goes to your timeline, if he has that setting, he might not have been on Facebook yet to review it.

[Asker]

Thanks for checking! But do you know if there is a difference between tagging someone in a shared post (like when you post some FB post on someone else's timeline) and between posting a picture and tagging the person in the comment of that picture? Because his friend just posted a post on his gf's timeline and tagged my guy in it, and it showed up on this timeline, but my pic did not show even though I tagged him. Is there a different between the two? :/ I'm confused lol stupid FB!

[Asker]

Hmm I don't think it's the approval thing, cause I have posted things to his timeline before directly and it just posted right away, and I know other people who posted on his wall and the same moment it posted. I also don't think he is that tech-savvy either to make his FB that "private" haha

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not really sure if there are different settings for shared posts and pictures. They've made so many changes to Facebook I'm no longer that familiar with the settings. I'll look around and see if I can find out.

[Asker]

Awesome, thanks! I don't want to be overreacting for nothing, but it did upset me thinking that he might have hidden that one post on purpose cause he was like embarrassed of me or something :/