In an unofficial LDR and I had a one night stand...

[Anonymous]

So I'm in an unofficial LDR with this guy, I moved overseas a couple of months ago and this guy and I got pretty serious before I left but we never defined our relationship and he said before I left that I should enjoy myself and have fun. A month after moving abroad I got really drunk and had a one night stand. My question is that is it classified as cheating if we're not official? I'm going home in a couple of months and I want to be honest and tell him but I don't want our relationship to suffer and since then I have been faithful and we have connected so much more lately. I also know that he hasn't been involved with anyone else. It's eating me up inside and I want to have a completely honest and trustworthy relationship but don't want to hurt him in the process.

[ilovelegs]

This is where it's best not to be honest with him because it won't be being dishonest. Your relationship wasn't defined before you left plus he told you that you should enjoy yourself and have fun. That's what you did, but exactly what you did is none of his business, and telling him will only add fuel to his back burner and give him something to think about, now or later. It's actually okay if you have another one-night stand(s). If he should ask you just tell him you did have some fun but nothing worthy of talking about and let it go at that. You don't owe a guy your life history. It's great that you're connected more now because once you're home you can have a different and closer type of relationship. You are being completely honest and trustworthy if you stop doing this once you start a more exclusive relationship. Until then stop fretting about it. You will only hurt him or his ego if you start bringing back water that's been over the dam already. Vow to make your relationship more official once you get back if that's what you both want. I'm sure you'll have no problem being faithful should you guys start being exclusive. Good luck!

[ArabianPwincess197]

He told her to have fun. True but I don't think he meant it for her to assume she can have one night stand(s). She might not be in a relationship with hin that is official but she is with him. So there is some sort of understanding and affection. So she has disrespected him through this. And if she keeps it from she'll only be hurting him more when the truth comes out. Because you can't hide it for long.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

If you aren't exclusive I don't know that there are any reasons you should consider it cheating. It's good manners to let him know so that he can decide if he wants to continue having sex with you.

[Anonymous]

You don't seem like a genuine couple therefore I don't think it's cheating