i checked into substance abuse program because i nearly beat my ex girlfriend to death, will it help?

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i just turned 23 years old.  i never knew i had a serious problem until the other day. well i left my ex of 6 years for this girl who had money. she is currently 19 years old and is in the military. when i first met her, three weeks later she moved in my home. i agreed to help her out in the situation in exchange for money and sex.  little do i know how much of a regret i had waiting on me at the end of the story. well she always been the type of girl who is bossy and want me to interact with her on the internet. all she wanted was so much of my attention. i had to drive her almost every single place. so my ex girlfriend whom had already had my  Facebook  password deleted all the pictures of me and the girl together because i asked her as a favor to do this. when i first met the girl in the army who stay with me i kinda figured she was crazy but i brushed it off. the other day i was enraged. my  Facebook  page loaded with all my memories including my deceased ex girlfriend and high school memories were gone. the page was deleted. the girl in the military blamed my ex for it. at the time i believed her. when i tried to get my password for  Facebook , the email request kept going back to my current girlfriend email address as well as my yahoo email information. the current girlfriend said that my ex has all that information. i was so enraged i went over to my ex girlfriend house dragged her out her car and beat her in her own blood. i never even hit a girl before in my life NEVER. i cried when i left. the girl in the military stood in her uniform and watched me happily nearly beat my ex to death over a set up she created. my verizon phone bill is 363. the military girl also did it. she wanted the pictures of us back on my page so she deactivated my old page and set my ex girlfriend up. i been drinking and smoking more. she wanted me to hurt my ex and she laughed at it. i entered myself in counseling. i told her she has to leave.

lacelover20 · Accepted Answer

She might have new what would make you mad but its not your crazy gfs fualt that you abused drugs or that you beat up A Girl. You need to take responsibility for your actions, that was all you even thought this girl sounds messed up. And you lefted your gf for a girl because she had money and you wanted sex? If your that shallow to leave your gf for someone just because ypu wanted money and you were  going to  get free sex I think you  also need therapy because something tells me there's something else wrong other then your rage issues. Maybe you haven't quite dealt with the death of your ex girlfriend? At first I thought you were a little crazy whenn i read this not  going to  lie but now I feel like there's much more going on underneath the surface that explains your behavior.  I think that maybe you abuse substances because you subconsciouly never dealt with the loss of your ex gf and it would explain why you blew up like that. I strongly suggest you see a therapist and still get help with your addictions. I also think you need should create a diary to help you understand you own self more, like your thoughts and feelings and it will keep you from holding everything in cuz thats not healthy, leave this extreme pycho ass bitch of a gf you have because this bitch is crazy, somehow she figured out your trigger and she fired at it then mulipulative you to believe it was the other girl just so she would have no competition because npw both girls are out the picture. She sounds like a pychopath and she scares me. She got you to do her dirty work for her. she's evil and  can't  be trusted. Also I think your other ex gf deserves a apology. Even if she hates your guts I thinknyou owe it to her and youmwill feel better. Try to surround yourself with positive people you  can't  afford to surround yourself with crazy twisted people right now you need to heal..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Its pretty terrible of your military girlfriend to have set you up to blame your ex, obviously you wouldn't want to associate with her anymore. First, realize that you have a problem that needs fixing. Your reaction isn't acceptable, violence is no solution. Really, by dumping all your emotions unto this poor girl you nearly killed, do you think you accomplished anything by it? Does beating anyone to a pulp restore whats been lost? Learn from your mistakes. Keep going to counseling, therapy, the gym, any place to release stress. Most importantly, learn from your mistakes. Back up photos, be careful with sharing password information, and really get to know a woman before inviting her to stay at your place. I really hope your situation improves. All, the best!

springocelot · Accepted Answer

I understand you would be upset to have memories erased but your reaction was beyond over the top and plain wrong. Hopefully, counseling will help. I strongly suggest you enter into an anger management program as well since you didn't mention whether you were under the influence of alcohol or drugs when you beat this girl. Psychotherapy might help too. Until you have your temper/anger issues sorted out, stay out of the dating scene in the meantime.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Regardless of what she / she did - you have NO right to beat up your ex. That is FUCKING PATHETIC. Over fucking pictures? Come on. Get a fucking grip. You are pathetic. How are you not in jail? Go check yourself in if not already there.

Hitting a woman is fucking disgusting. I don't care your reason - you HAVE NO EXCUSE. You are sick and need help. Violence is never the answer unless your life is being threatened and you have no option. We live in a civilized society and it is people like you that are contributing to the downfall of society. Dramatic yes but true.

I hope once you found out the truth you tried the same shit on the military girl and she knocked the shit out of you. Although I doubt that happened because you would probably be too afraid to confront her physically as you know she would destroy you. People like you are pathetic. I am sickened to read this post and hope karma comes around for you. People like you belong in the zoo or jail not in society with normal people. Violence isn't the answer except for the lowest members of society - you probably can't express yourself intelligibly and resort to violence. Again seek help and a jail cell.

26ukdude · Accepted Answer

If you nearly beat someone to death, you will likely be going to prison if caught, it constitutes (here in the uk) as GBH. What your ex did was wrong and horrible, but you tried to justify it by physically maming her. You need to sort whatever problems you have in your life out, calm down and THEN find a nice girl and not rush into a relationship. It seems to me the types of girls you are attracted to are bad for you and this compounds any problems you allready have. A relationship with a person should be a positive thing, not destructive.

Arwens-Fire · Answer

Hmmm... you're a damn psycho. Also, stop trying to blame someone else for you losing control. It YOUR fault that you loss control. Hopefully some type of program can help you... and neither one of these girls should ever deal with you again. Good luck.

CellLuddite · Answer

Naw, you're garbage and nothing is  going to  change that.

manb91gb · Answer

Also may want to go to a therapist who specializes in personality disorders

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

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