Questions: Relationships

Do most relationships have that or can it jump straight into deep connections, compatible goals, genuine affection, loyalty, respect and deep love, not just admiration and feeling the highs.

Do you really need to be infatuated to have a successful long-term relationship or it leading to marriage? Or can you just love them a lot, without that first stage? Is infatuation important? I heard that can actually blind you and not let you make better judgements of that person since you're thinking they're perfect and they're not.

My bfs parents bought a tropical vacation home out of the country ( in the USA) and my boyfriend and his dad were both telling me to get a passport and I did.

My bfs mom originally told me and my boyfriend that I could come down South with them next year in the fall but now my bfs mom told my boyfriend she doesn’t allow me to come because we’re not married and I’m not her daughter in law. My boyfriend got pissed and told her that it’s serious between me and him and that we’re together for 3 years already and she said that’s their rules and their house.

why did his mom change her mind about me coming togther with my boyfriend if she likes me so much?

( she’s always hugging me and she bought me a very generous bday gift as well and she always feeds me. I also always come to his family get togethers and always have bought gifts for my bfs nieces and nephews as well).

What do you think of this?

I saw an episode where a wife wouldn't let their daughter enter ballet school. She suffered a dramatic event of being raped by her former ballet teacher as a kid. Only her mother knew later on but she kept this a secret.

Finally when she admits it to her husband, instead of being supportive... he walks away, scolds her and is disgusted by not being the first man. He was too focused on the ''you're tainted'' part and nearly wanted to proceed with a divorce. His own mother was very ashamed of her son's attitude. Though he only apologized because his mother talked him out of it. He wouldn't have done it on his own account. The former school finally gets arrested when she reports him and he does it to again to the daughter's friend.

Even though it's a ficitious episode, real cases like this does happens. Honestly I would not forgive him. He wanted divorce and his own mother had to talk him out of it. How is being raped being tainted? That's out of someone's control. I would find that attitude and him walking away unforgivable.

I am just curious.