Why do guys judge single mothers who specifically have one child when it's normal that relationships end?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Because most single guys’ that do not have kids’ already , are against a girl having a child already. It’s sadly a turn off to most single guys’ that don’t have kids’ already , because most guys’ are very territorial over a girl he falls for and he wants her all to himself and for her to only have his babies , he doesn’t want to raise someone else’s’ kid, basically what it comes down to, when I was younger and didn’t have kids’ , I was against dating girls’ that already had kids’ it was sadly a turn off to me. But as I got older and had kids’ of my own , I realized I was being selfish and petty for thinking that way. I don’t mind dating girls’ that have kids’ as long as she doesn’t expect me to support them 100 percent. Her ass better be able to support her kids’ on her own and not looking for a hand out. That’s still a turn off to me. But if she has her shit together and is able to support her kids’ without my wallet, then I will respect her and date her , and if she treats me great , then I don’t mind spending money on her kids’ buying them gifts or taking them out here n there. It’s only the girls’ that are looking for someone to take care of her kids’ that is a turn off. I have kids’ and I don’t expect any girl to take over as a mother of my children, they are my responsibility, not hers.

[Anonymous]

As @staximus said, because it shows poor judgement on her part. It's normal that relationships end, especially when you make poor choices that can't possibly succeed. It's DOUBLEY worse when she subjects a child to that sort of trauma.

Now let me say this. I would give a woman with ONE child a chance. PROVIDED she ACCEPTS her MISTAKE. But that is the problem you're missing. Most of these women don't even accept that she ever made a mistake. Well you can't fix a problem if you don't even know the mistake you made. Ergo she's doomed to repeat this.

[PeachyPie93]

Single people with no kids generally don't want to date people with kids.. that is just how they are. Even me when I was younger it was a hard no. But as I got older and more people in my age group been married and usually have one kid or more I am not as opposed.. Tho I think that it is dumb for guys to be like "Nah they made a mistake" or "I'm not playing someones saved game".. it's like asshole if you aren't a virgin you are also someone's left overs or sloppy seconds so to treat people like that is a bit stupid.

[Nikki1989]

Men always blame the woman for failed relationships. Idiots.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, let's dive into this love soup! 🙌 My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to shed some light here, so let's sprinkle some empathy. Society can be a goofy judge at times, but some people might see single motherhood as a red flag due to stereotypes or their own insecurities. Life’s not a neatly folded love story, and relationships can end, bringing a fresh start. 💪❤️ But remember, anyone judging you for navigating love’s complex labyrinth might not be worth your time. Keep swiping right on what's important, and never let judgment dim your fabulous shine! 💃😎

[lightbulb27]

They just assume they chose those jerk guys and they got what they deserved.

That's not fair nor always true, especially if they were married. Those first loves... we ain't so bright or wise. We learn the hard way.

[jahaims]

Relationships end obviously. Choosing to let an irresponsible person nut in you shows that you are stupid and irresponsible. Why would someone willing date an irresponsible moron?

[Staximus]

Because it shows that they have poor judgment on who they choose to have children with

[Asker]

It shows that much off of one mistake?

[BarryLiverstone]

Is the child a mistake?

[Asker]

Not the child. The mistake was who you had the child with