Questions: Relationships

I am just wondering about an old friend / former colleague. I don't have any intentions of encroaching if he is engaged/involved with another woman.

But someone told me he was engaged. I've known him for well over a year. He doesn't have a ring. He doesn't have a ring line. And he has never once, even in passing, mentioned a fiance.

Never mind when I happened to drop by in a professional blouse & dress pants, that accented figure, he was staring. And when I happened to give him a big-ass smile, the cause was happy about something, in saying hello I'm pretty sure he was "struck dump" because he didn't answer what I asked him after.

I’m using cassette tapes in this scenario bc recordings online don’t work as you can jut keep it and claim you deleted — and yes, I know you can record a cassette tape too but that requires a next level of deception & I think such a consciously untrustworthy person, would not be getting a cassette tape convo in the first place.

I saw an old movie where someone recorded their thoughts on a tape an gage it but I thought I would ask for it back bc I don't know in life in a conversation, you don’t record lol no one would want to be recorded 🤷🏻‍♀️ but in this movie they let with them keep the tape 👀 (plus, if they give it back, you know when they finished listening)

Just curious, bc I know I’d ask for it back, which I guess you may think it rude, but whatever lol it’s how a real convo would go, when it’s done it’s done- you only have your memory 😂

My ex and I had a messy fight a few weeks ago and he hasn't been the same since. Before I knew I made him happy, he has told me several times that he has never loved someone as much as he loves me. But he told me something changed after that fight. It has been on off for just under three weeks until a few days ago when he told me to move out. He told me he needs space and maybe we can try again when he's back. He's going to Spain next week and will be gone for two weeks. I made the mistake of not giving him space because I wanted to talk, I hadn't had a chance to explain how I felt. I showed up and he was so happy to see me. He showed me how he's been Journaling about me, how he went down to a print shop to print a picture of me from the beginning of our relationship when things were good to keep with him at all times, all the things he said and did pointed towards him missing me, wanting to get back together and fix things. I moved my things back in. Then, out of the blue, he feels depressed. He said it was too soon, then he said he doesn't want this at all. He said he's just been trying to convince himself that we can go back to normal even though he knows we can't. This confused me because in the last two weeks he had told me that he's so proud of being seen with me, that he wants to move overseas with me, that I'm the only person who understands him, he has been telling me that he loves me a lot more than usual. Now I don't know what's true, the person he is when he's happy is so different from the person he is when he's resentful. I begged and pleaded, it wasn't a good look and I don't know if I ruined my chances. I need a second opinion please, do you think he'll come back? Do you think he still loves me? If he doesn't, why has he said all these things?