Questions: Relationships

If you're single and the *only* partners you could possibly ever get, would be abusive, disrespectful, unfaithful, or otherwise not treat you with proper respect, and you refuse to be with someone like that and are sad to be alone because of that, would that still be considered being picky/entitled?

As in, you could be with someone and have a relationship with them, but these people would only ever be mean to you, disrespectful, polyamorous (cheating), expect you to pay them money constantly in order for them to stay with you, would not consider you a good partner, etc. They'd be using/exploiting you, but at least you'd still be with someone.

If someone chooses not to be with someone like that, are they considered picky/entitled? Or is that fair? (This applies to both genders in such a situation, but likely applies more so to men, for obvious reasons.)

I'm asking this in full good faith. I do know know what you'd call this.

I really, really want to be a father. I want to be the best dad ever. The problem I am having is that I never had a real girlfriend and I am approaching my 30s. I only want a woman without a romantic past, meaning no previous first love or boyfriend. It is heartbreaking because I almost had that, but the woman I wanted to be with dumped me on the first date. Now, I feel like I will never find my future wife.