How do you keep memories alive?

[CaseysHusband]

My baby boy will never know his amazing mother. I'm really struggling with how to teach him how incredible she was. My heart is so broken.

[Anonymous]

All you can do is move on one day at a time. At least you have that part of her.

My older brother lost his fiancee, she just stopped breathing in her sleep, ambulance was called and she was in hospital in a coma for 3 months before they pulled the plug.

They were both 25. She had started her career practicing law, he was making good money in sales. They were given land to build a house, had saved up the money for the wedding, were living in a great apartment, had great holidays together all that was left was to get married in 3months, settle down and have kids. She was very organised and the last thing she did the night b4 she died was pick out the dress, everything else she planned out herself.

My brother was never the same again, that was 10 years. He's nothing left but memories of this wonderful woman and can't move on. He's dated other women but can't be there. He's currently just working in Thailand, living well but lonely.

I hope you can move on.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

First, my deepest condolences

By sharing your memories/ stories of her when he gets old enough. When something he does is just like his mom would have done, tell him that. Or if he laughs like her, or has the same favorite food. (just a few examples)

[Angelo75]

Start compiling her pics and videos like crazy.

See if somehow you are allowed to her phone and account and compile ALL pics.

Write down the story of any pic you can recognize.

It could also help you with grieving, cuz shutting off or trying to hide from the pain will only slow your mind to DEAL with the loss. (but this is my honest opinion).

I'm sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sorry for your loss man.

Hang in there.

:(

/hug

[Angelo75]

Saw this post again today.
It still tears my heart to pieces. :(

[Summeroflove]

I’m so sorry. Yeah I assume that’s hard. Show him photos and videos

[SphynxUK]

You could make a memory box or scrap book which you can revisit when you feel like it. Add things which you can add a story to make her a real life person and not just a face in a photo.
You can use anything, jewellery, a photo, receipt, songs, favourite foods, everything and anything to build a complete picture of her.
You could also write a little story about a fun time, and give (read out) as a letter on each birthday so it becomes a tradition…?

[DarkCarousel]

Keep her pictures around and tell stories often, even when it’s hard. Are there any traditions you had with her? What was her favorite music or food? Share all of those things with him.
I’m so sorry for your loss.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Damn... she was hot too. Sorry for your loss. Just make sure the kid is aware that his Mom was so awesome. Be positive about it and don't let your broken heart rub off on the kid.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Objects keep memories alive.

I have some old toys and when I look at them or smell them, I remember things, people and situations that happened a very long time ago, things I thought I forgot forever.

[KathrynTaylor]

Showing photos, movies, giving your child her mum’s belongings and sharing stories/memories.

[brezzybaby]

I do very much so. , Especially when that's all I have left of someone is the memory I play it on repeat

[Rockstarrrrr]

I'm sorry man 😔🙏🙏

[lorenzomichael]

They take a lot of pictures.

[Jamie05rhs]

Dude, I'm sorry, bro. 😥💙

[Anonymous]

Write them down in a Journal.