Would you ever “test” your partners friends if you thought they didn’t have their best interests at heart?

[Anonymous]

I tested my ex’s best “friends” we all met at a bar my ex had to use the bathroom and I mentioned a little argument we had and said “I love her but she can be a handful hey” and not one of them alerted her to what I said just agreed and started tearing her down verbally to me behind her back before being all smiles again when she came back. After a few days had gone by I told my ex what they said and she cut them off. It was hard for her to make friends and looking back it really hurt her hearing that but I loved her and wanted her to find real friends who had her back however was this toxic? Maybe but I doubt people would stand for their partners friends stabbing them in the back in their absence

[Guy13]

It was good to know but I would not have told her until I replicated the pilot study.
Gotten alone with them, sat down like one of the girls, how’s she been treating you guys…with some eyes movement 🙄.
It is what it is.

[brezzybaby]

No I mean a lot of people would just go along with it. You can't trust a damn soul this days

[SaoirseS]

The whole idea of “testing” people in friendships and relationships is repugnant to me.

[dustybiker]

I don’t play games. I’d discuss it with the partner like an adult.

[KathrynTaylor]

Why do that?

[Asker]

I mean usually I wouldn’t but I watched her pick bad company like five times told her what would happen but left it up to her. Then it would happen and she’d get hurt. So it got me in the mindset, that is till I realised she didn’t want good company. Just wanted to play the victim in the hopes of attracting sympathy from anywhere and everywhere

[KathrynTaylor]

Well, some people are like that.

[Asker]

Yup so would you look out for your partner if you thought they had a shit judge of character? Or was you just curious why I did what I did?

[KathrynTaylor]

I’d look out for them. I’d probably not investigate them, getting personally involved, as it’s tradition to shoot the messenger.